I think it's a very personal decision. I was raised in a nerdy, science-y, "education first" family - my first home as a baby was in married graduate housing while my dad was getting his PhD. In my early 20s, I gave up a decent paying but boring job to get my PhD. It's part of my identity to be surrounded by…

I had my wedding 3+ years ago, and this is the only thing that would convince me to do it all over again. She's gotten way more exciting since 2010!

What were you referring to when you said "this" - the article, or your own comment? The context of your sentence after that one led me to assume you meant that your anecdote on arranged marriage was not a statement on all arranged marriages. My point was, you said "people who actually listened to their parents" and…

There is a huge difference between an arranged marriage and being pressured to marry within your race/culture.

For someone making "humorous comments" your original comment was pretty harsh and judgmental - and not funny. I've actually found that as far as internet commenters go, the gawker group commenters can sometimes be open to real discussion and learning about new perspectives. I've had some productive exchanges with…

Especially white people who assume everyone else that they are talking to is white.

Both my parents and my in-laws had courthouse weddings, and are from cultures where big weddings are the norm, and my husband and I were the oldest in both families, so both sides wanted a big fat wedding. We were grad students and could afford and were cool with SF courthouse (so pretty!) and a bar tab somewhere, but…

It's not about blaming your family, it's about different cultural and traditional landscape. Weddings mean different things to different people; for some, it is about celebrating the love of families and acknowledging cultural traditions. Perhaps those who have talked to you about their weddings have felt the need to…

Yeah, I am confused - would there be one central person who is individually married to each other person, or would everyone be married to everyone? What happens if you want to marry someone who is already married to another group of people - do those two groups merge?

You are right that there are very few styles, and is certainly can be boring to look for dresses - especially if you're not super girly girl :) I don't know if it's because strapless is dominant, and so designers spend more time and energy perfecting that style, or if brides generally prefer strapless because they are…

I know, I bought ZERO strapless cocktail dresses (excepting bridesmaids monstrosities) because I am cheap and all strapless in my budget looked terrible. I avoided trying on strapless wedding dresses until the "consultant" at the fancy pants boutique convinced me, and it was a game changer. I've since invested in an…

Well, she did change into a strapless for her reception; I think strapless is not allowed for princesses in churches or something. Long lace sleeves, which I considered!, are not practical because they're unflattering if you don't have very slender arms, and raise the probability for sweating and pit-stains if there…

that's a great idea!

And good luck trying to offload those $150 Alfred Angelo things on the internet, even for $20! I just donate mine to goodwill now, hopefully some fashion genius teenagers end up transforming them into something cool project runway-style.

Is it just me, or has Scandal itself gotten hilariously bad? I pretty much am annoyed with every character on the show except Mellie. I loved the first mini-season, then things just kinda went off the rails into soaptown.

A well-made strapless dress is not supposed to be held in place by the top, it's supposed to be fitted at the waist by bustier-type structure. I splurged and got a strapless Amsale for my wedding dress - it was incredible in fit, comfort, and the structure at the waist was really slimming as well. I have…

I will die of happiness if there is one day a contestant named Tynnyfer.

I know someone who does this! She plans exhibits and activities at a science museum.

I have fond memories of watching the Bachelor while writing the first draft of my doctoral dissertation. In order: yes, no, yes, no, relatively bitchy but not used as a mask. Also, in college we turned it into a drinking game.

I actually don't remember what time of day he would take it, but he's always been a night owl in terms of working (computer science, they're weirdos) so it just seemed like his usual working habits were amplified. If he does have ADD, its certainly mild. His hangovers were so gnarly that I remember thinking, why would…