We can hope that an end to this kind of brutality may be one of the good things that comes from the internet and social media, etc

It’s not even “punishing the women” to them. Because the women are nothing but a means to an end. It’s punishing the brother by fucking his things. Like keying his car. Or burning down his house. :(

I want to fly over and grab them and bring them to my house right now. Passports or visas or whatever be damned. :(

Me too. I think I’d shut down for days, weeks, months without them. Picture Goldie Hawn in Overboard in the barrel.

Agree, on all counts.

But I’m ungreyed and it no longer lists Jezebel or Muse as following me. I think maybe the websites no longer show up in follower lists. I think that was a tweak they did a while ago (though I don’t know why).

I’m an organ donor all the way. :)

I had SUCH s crush on him when he was on that show!

Well, I respect that you have a well thought out plan. I feel like you should definitely have some preemptive talks with the funeral director.

Oh man. I came back to my phone and had 20 notifications and saw the beginning of your post first. I had that sinking “oh shit, what did I say before I left home” feeling.

And kids are funny, right? You can never tell how they will react. Though I have a forensic archeology friend, and I’m sure he was a fascinated one.

I’m from the midwest and they are pretty common there too. Sometimes just right at the front of the chapel and the visitors parade past them at one point in the service.

Ha! Nice. You know Costco sells urns and caskets. There’s a whole tab on their website for funeral stuff. Or there was a few years ago at least. The bag in a river seems easy enough, but you are bound to end up on some downstream detective’s case load.

Oh, I choked up thinking about what I would do if it was my BFF (I’m pms-y). Would be so weird to leave them for the last time. (I haven’t lost a parent or sibling yet either).

It is weird though. They put bright red lipstick on my grandma. She was a depression era farm wife. She never wore any lipstick. It was so strange seeing her like that. I can understand your dad thinking it was a weird way to last see his mother. :(

And maybe before pictures it was one last way of seeing and remembering them? But now, blow up some nice happy snapshots.

You should absolutely not let anyone pressure to look at them. How dues it affect them that you don’t want to look at a corpse for Pete’s sake. I ducked and dodged my way around my Grandpa’s casket a few years ago and then darn it if I didn’t get wrangled next to it because of someone’s speach or something. Cue…

Yes yes yes. The photos are (to me) a much better of a celebration of their life.

I think a picture is easier than in person. And honestly, people I don’t know are easier than those I do, of course. I was in a volunteer program for a while that had me around recently deceased people for a while.