I kept my last name and took his no hyphen. It's long and clunky, but I love sharing a name with my family and having a name to share with my husband and my new family. I come from a culture where last names are two parters anyway so it seemed an easy switch for me to add my husbands too. I go by Mrs. HisName for…

She is also ESL. So give her a break.

In the detective’s defense I think he was just preempting the question why did no one stop this in a public place? He then clearly asserts it did not matter if there was no struggle she is a child.