I told my family about the neighbor years later, when I was in college. They responded with an uncomfortable silence, and it has never been brought up again. Thankfully, I have good friends that I am able to talk to (many who experienced similar things).

Thank you for sharing your story. When I was 9, and playing softball in little league, a girl on my team accused the coach of touching her inappropriately. Everyone accused the girl of lying, because her family was poor, and her dad was an alcoholic. My parents wouldn’t let me play with her anymore, and I can remember…

I make this plea a lot, but please, Jezzies, leave the assholes and trolls in the grays. You’re not going to be able to reason with the idiot suggesting sexual molestation in America is a silly non-issue because of ISIS. You’re not going to successfully school the charming gentlemen who doesn’t believe victim blaming…

I encourage everyone to flag the commenter in the grays for hate speech. It is hateful to the victims of child sexual abuse to erase and dismiss their assaults as less significant than some other sexual crime happening somewhere in the world.

Perfectly articulated. Maybe if some of the idiots who wonder why women and girls don’t come forward could be subjected to just a tiny portion of the feelings expressed in this piece, MAYBE then some of them would understand why women don’t, and then HAVE to, come forward. (Cosby).

I have a very clear memory, from when I was about 12, of my mother angrily telling me about a family we knew from church, and how their horrible daughter, who was a few years years older than me, had “ruined her family” by reporting that her stepfather had molested her. It didn’t even occur to my mother, or anyone…

Thank you for writing about this. I remember in the 7th grade that there was an 8th girl, kind of popular and already developing, who was rumored to be “having an affair” with the PE teacher/football coach. I remember at that time that we blamed her - that we thought she was a “slut,” that we though she had enough…

You do realize bullets can go all the way through somebody right?

A cynic might suggest that they made the whole thing up for extra publicity... but on balance I’m not that cynical. So I think they just find some form of catharsis and pleasure in sharing their personal moments?

Having mixed feelings about this. I feel strongly that women should discuss their miscarriages more and feel safe doing that, knowing they will get support. But something about this feels off, like it was staged.

I don’t think she knows where Spain is, but she’d probably be surprised it’s in Europe.

i get what you´re saying... But Spanish, is a European Language brought to us by the colonizer, so while Latin@s might not be considered white, the language we speak sure is.

I’m not at all surprised by this, the FL panhandle is a weird place.* I’ll never forget a Rolling Stone article in which the wife of the lead singer of Against Me recalled being in a panhandle fast-food restaurant (they live in the area) and having some local call her a satanist because she was wearing all black.

Wow, it’s almost like those whore pills are an integral part of women’s healthcare and not just for slutty mcslut sluts to have unprotected sex with every guy on the block. Who knew?

That’s OK, I got into an online argument recently about whether bicyclists should have to obey traffic rules like stopping at stop signs (instead of blowing through them without pausing). While I freely admitted that a pause-and-go was OK if there was no traffic, I pretty strongly believed that bicycles didn’t get a…

Dear dudes: Stop watching so much porn. Real life is not a fantasy scene from a porn movie.

You’d probably feel differently if you were not asked prior to the act. The It’s only a kink if all parties concerned are of age, aware of the filming, and consent to it. Without any of that, it’s a crime. The perpetrator is getting off on violating peoples privacy and lack of consent.