I'm kinda of two minds about this, because I do appreciate the ability to opt out of things last-minute when I'm not feeling up to it. My therapist has been actively encouraging me to do this MORE because I tend to put everyone's feelings before my own and wear myself out in the process. And when I host I'm pretty…

I was coming down here to say that this entire phenomenon can probably be based on the existence of Maybe on Facebook. I don't blame people for using it when it's there, but man does it encourage flakiness.

Yeah, I definitely agree that's what the intent was, and I do think it's helpful for white people to talk amongst themselves about recognizing our privileges. But I also understood why POC felt that it amounted to bragging (both about getting off and about how badass they are), and that it was triggering for them to…

Yeah, I've been watching the How I Met Your Mother Episodes where they have the baby, and not only do they do the "labor is an instantaneous and dramatic event that results in a clean four month" old thing, but since the baby isn't relevant to most of the scenes it just sits there silently a lot and that's kind of…

I love your comment to death, but I also relate to that feeling of "no matter what we do, someone says it's wrong". Because, obviously, black people have conflicting opinions about white people can do to help, and it can be very confusing when you're trying to figure out the right thing to do, without burdening anyone…

I think it's always an awkward problem when actors want to leave sitcoms, because it's not like Downton Abbey where they can die. I'm curious whether Rashida Jones and Rob Lowe will make any guest appearances or it'll be this awkward thing where they moved away and then never appear again despite that making no sense…

She writes in her book that he was only supposed to be on the show for six episodes. Can you imagine??

But it will be SO SAD when I watch all of them at once and then there are no more, and I'll have to live with the reality that I'll only be able to watch Parks and Rec repeats ever again! I just went through this with Gilmore Girls, I can't handle it again! I need my TV to pace itself for me because I have no self…

I think it's great that they're putting it in the future. It was kind of getting to that "OK everybody is paired off and happy, any problems they create are gonna seem lame and forced" and this avoids all that by creating a whole new set of circumstances. That and I've seen enough sitcom renditions of childbirth to…

Nope, not for years, because embargo. Only way to even potentially do it is to fly to Canada first.

This is a really difficult question, as evidenced by the discussion. I have tried to a. mostly post things that are written by people of color talking about these issues and b. mostly post things directed at white people, particularly around the oppressive behavior of many white people who are participating in…

THIS. It makes me particularly angry in the nonprofit field, where we purport to care about both class and race diversity in hiring, yet put up totally arbitrary barriers to getting jobs. My college degree has absolutely no relation to the actual work I do day-to-day. At this point, "college degree required" is…

Yep, or we could take our understanding that everyone has insecurities so far that we don't even feel the need to call people who have them an "Emo Teen"? WTF Jezebel.

THANK YOU. I am so freaking sick of hearing "but innocent until proven guilty!" Our justice system errs on the side of a guilty person potentially getting away (in theory) because the risk of putting an innocent person in jail is so great. It's completely unrelated to what individual opinions should be.

Way more than 20, apparently. I keep seeing dudes who are generally socially progressive, like real leaders in the #Blacklivesmatter movement, posting stuff about how this is a conspiracy against Cosby because he's a positive black role model, or whatever. Super fucking depressing. At least there's always lots of…

Yeah figured, so you support people's aims as long as they don't do anything disruptive or that would actually inconvenience anyone (so basically, you support them as long as they don't really care about their impact). Littering is basically the mildest form of civil disobedience you can muster. You are, actually,…

Let me guess, you also think police brutality protesters shouldn't be disrupting commutes or blocking traffic?

Bro. It is interesting statistics that have NOTHING TO DO with the topic at hand. Like, at all.

That's a completely unrelated example because the protest isn't targeted AT the convention center. These protesters are asking Columbia to respond to their important and reasonable demands, and are being increasingly stonewalled and disrespected by the university. They left the mattresses there to intentionally create…

Absolutely none of their message relies on the idea that they are "most likely" to be raped— it's that women at Columbia HAVE been raped and are not seeing justice for it. It doesn't negate or distract from efforts to combat rape outside of colleges, either.