Yeah, I certainly don't feel like men who want to pay necessarily think I'm looking to be their subservient housewife; I just think they're being nice and haven't necessarily thought a lot about the roots of that tradition, or they have and they still just like to be nice to women. I think it's fine to keep offering…

"It's not antiquated as long as women still get 70 cents to a man's 100 cents on the dollar"

That wasn't a tangent.

I split the bill as a rule, no matter who asked for the date. I hate the expectation that men are supposed to pay; it's not based in 'chivalry', it's based in the idea that the only reason women date is to find a man who will support them.

Jezebel feels that people shouldn't hate their bodies. Pro-ana website promotes body hatred. So does fat shaming.

Apparently, "copyright law" is a new concept for you, dimwit.

I agree with that logic- my personal policy is that I don't sleep with a guy right away if I think I'll be really devastated if I never hear from him again. But that's about protecting my feelings; the logic that strikes me as icky is when it's "You have to make him wait or he won't want you, because men don't like it…

I feel like most women will say "Oh, The Rules? That stuff is ridiculous!" if you ask them about it, but have internalized way more of it than they'd like to admit. I know I have- it's taken me a long time to stop feeling like I must be screwing something up if I text a guy, or sleep with him on the first date. And so…

That was my experience too, but I don't think it means much; dudes don't get responses to most of their messages, either!

Most people don't actively do it, but I do find that a lot of the attitudes are pretty pervasive. The idea that "guys love the chase and they have to be the initiator" and the "make him wait for sex so he'll respect you' stuff I hear pretty commonly, even from my badass feminist friends. I'd find it less upsetting if…

I'm really all for jokes, and jokes about cheese, and even irreverent jokes, but making jokes about a situation where 7 people just died tragically. . .that I'm not super down with.

hee hee hee :)

Shit, I wouldn't be surprised to hear some of my southern relatives say they wish they could own slaves NOW.

This might be really oblivious of me, but I'm actually surprised that teaching and serving are still on the list of "womanly" jobs. My teachers in school were about evenly split between men and women and the servers I encounter are too. I guess the numbers say they're still overwhelmingly dominated by women, though?

This isn't stupid because of correlation/causation. . .it's stupid because it assumes there's any relationship between looking at pictures of organic food and being a person who buys and consumes it.

This has really helped me put a finger on what I find so irritating about NYC's cupcake obsession. Especially the part about "Cupcakes say I splurge! But only a little. Just the adorable and acceptable amount." Many people enjoy cupcakes, but the people who are obseeeeeessed with cupcakes tend to be the sort who will…

I got one of those "This Is What A Feminist Looks Like" stickers in the mail for a donation I made, and I sort of mindlessly stuck it on the filing cabinet in my office. Then months later I looked up and realized that I'd declared that my filing cabinet is a feminist.

I'm a feminist and I can totally imagine myself ending up in that scenario on a particularly raucous Saturday night. So.

I think it really depends on the person. Some people don't get hungry in the morning, others do. I skipped breakfast when I used to eat a really unhealthy diet, because I'd eat too much at night and still be full in the morning. But now that I eat well I get hungry first thing (and without too much TMI, my digestive…

I usually don't get hungry after dinner, so, yeah. Drinking is another story, however :)