Physical abuse comes from emotional abuse.

For sure you have anger issues, at minimum, per your own description. Yes, you should seek help with that.

People will remember this as “they’re both crazy” and the vastly more popular half of this scandal will continue unscathed. It’s not like Fassbender, Penn, Polanski or Woody Allen are desperate to land gigs, everyone wants to work with them.

He absolutely is minimizing it. It’s why he’s also dismissing replies including mine:

I am guessing he had more control over the drinking when he was Vanessa - maybe because of the kids?

It is very hard not to be frightened out your mind as your significant other throws objects and boots holes through property, hotel room or not.

It’s surrogate violence meant to terrorize while walking the line of actionable domestic abuse. The intent is clear to anyone who’s endured it, and the distance between willingness to destroy property to release rage and the willingness to release rage more directly on the target is not long.

Violence against property in retaliation or for the purposes of intimidation against your partner is domestic violence.

Brit here. It doesn’t seem odd to me, but we do use both forms.

What about if a guy kicks his wife’s dog to get back at her (my Dad used to do this). Yes, it’s animal abuse. But isn’t is also domestic violence?

no, but it often escalates into physical abuse.

I did my senior thesis on the affects of physical vs emotional abuse - I got the inspiration from my own experience with emotional (and thankfully not physical) abuse. It deeply, profoundly scarred me. My ex used to hit everything *but* me - doors, mirrors, windows, dressers...things around my vicinity, in order to…

If he wasn't capable of being nice and charming she would not have married him, or stayed after he hit her the first time. Like so many other DV victims, she wanted desperately that the nice and charming was his "true self" and the violence was an extraordinary exception that would not happen again. If she could just…

Just want to quickly chime in here and remind everyone that emotional abuse has evidence of having as many, if not more, long-term detrimental psychological affects on victims than physical abuse.

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Trashing a room is threatening behaviour and symbolic violence = abusive.

People seem unable to process that their pal is abusive, because he never abused them.

Truth. One of my coworkers seemed totally nice and friendly at work, then I saw him while out at a bar and he scared the living shit out of me.

Truth. There are a lot of men I work with closely that I have NO idea what they’re like at home. Abusers are well-documented at having a duality.