First, as livvy noted and as so many people want to misread: checking up on someone is not the same thing as stalking. Using the word "stalking" to discuss basic safety tactics is not actually stalking, and it belittles and minimizes the experience of those who are stalked - and leads people to say things like "oh,…

Geez, that's not what Rocza's argument/this conversation was about. It was not necessarily about whether people check out people on Facebook or whether or not that is ok...the point was: don't call this kind of behaviour stalking, because being stalked (on facebook, in real life) is something traumatic and real that…

"Not to be all gender-essentialist about it, but here's some gender essentialism..."

As a friend of mine notes, people use the word "stalk" to mean "check up on" in a sense that really belittles the victims of actual stalking. It would be really nice if Jezebel writers were aware enough of this to stop using "stalk" casually and in such a trivializing manner in their posts - just as they take people…

It's a stereotype that only women do this gossiping, stalking thing. Men do the trivial harmless part of it all the time (checking the ex's facebook, googling before dates, etc.), and are actually more likely to do the harmful kind of stalking (following a woman, harassing her at work, etc.).

No, I don't know what my ex's girlfriend looks like - or if he has one. I don't know what my ex-husband's wife looks like, and I only know he has one because someone told me. I only know what my fiancé's ex-partner looks like because she's been in pictures he has shown me.

Mmmmm let's not go around trying to dismantle long-standing stereotypes that exist for both men and women, only to turn around and tout a stereotype based on gender because you happen to like it.

Hey, Tracie. Forget the content of the article for a minute, I'd like to address the writing style. PLEASE CUT IT OUT with the heteronormative shit. I'm a woman. I'm not romantically interested in men. If you're going to write generally and broadly about all women everywhere, at least acknowledge that not all of…

Yep. Clearly in the mold of 'not to be racist, but'

Why can't we just congratulate women on jobs well done without speculating about how their sex contributed to their success?

"Not to be all gender essentialist about it..."