Oh man. It’s hard because her and I have spent time hanging out together alone and have been fine, so when these flare ups happen I feel awkward as fuck and yeah annoyed. But I will find a productive way to let her know what my boundaries are, and I think it would probably prudent to set the “participate or not”…

LOL! She runs hot and cold with her contact with me, and we’ve spent time alone together and have been fine, but yeah I think I just need to assert my boundaries before it’s too late

I am more than happy to spend Thanksgiving with his family, or any time at all for that matter, I don’t see how being annoyed with her inflexibility in this situation (which is how we all go here in the first place) means I am not willing to accommodate or be flexible at others.

This is going to go great with my wine

Telling you how much to work? Yikes how did that even come up? And you’re right, I should find a way to check her so that it doesn’t spiral out of control over time.

We used to live out of state and would go to restaurants with Thanksgiving prefix menus and that was THE BEST

Thank you I appreciate you sharing that insight - it is funny because in some ways he’s just like her and thankfully in other ways not. I will have to check that therapy out, I think maybe we could use a little easing in to the bigger picture and I certainly won’t shy away from the help!

I do appreciate that oddly enough this is also a holiday as much about food and thanks as it is with getting into fights with family so at least we’re on theme.

That woman sounds terrible! That is some level 10 emotional abuse. My boyfriend does buffer me, but I get the sense that he’s also deeply embarrassed so he tends to shut down around these types of situations. The way around that would be to practice in a sense but he’s not too keen on it, so I fear that we won’t ever…

I like you

Yeah he’s been clear that he’s not on board with her shenanigans so that’s a plus

It was his idea to just disinvite her so that’s a plus, but dealing with this shit for the rest of my life sounds unappealing as fuck

http://jezebel.com/1787862201 - previous thread

PLEASE tell me it’s the movie Fear

Because then it just becomes another consumable. Something to watch and immediately forget because SVU is not meant to educate. I agree that it deserves attention but regurgitating it with more dramatic details is not the way to do that.

I get that this is their shtick but this is the lowest hanging fruit. There have been some that are better left alone (Casey Anthony, Jon Benet) but this especially is lazy and annoying.

After enough wine I just go straight Camus and quit caring about anything

I miss Mya

And so it begins

Fuck the both of them.