some people are just with anyone to be with anyone, then rather being alone, no matter how terrible another person is. I don’t get it, I would rather be alone.

women pay for the privilege of being in a serious romantic relationship by taking on multiple full-time jobs

I’m 46 now and I simply can’t online date anymore. It makes me miserable. While I’m not closed to the idea of romance, I decided I’m not actively pursuing it anymore. 2016's ramping up of virulent misogyny made the decision easier for me, but it’s been building up for awhile. I’m not totally happy on my own, but I…

Wish I could star you a thousand times. There are some things in my life I just do not bring up or talk about except with people who already know all about it, and even then I still sometimes get those asinine “have you thought of...” or “have you tried...” comments. Hate it so much, but screaming “I am not stupid!”…

I’m probably somewhat different from your friend - I love when friends of mine talk about their kids and if I like the partner, then I like them talking about the partner too. But what I think is terrible is that us singles are never given the space to talk about that struggle too. It’s always shut down with stuff…

That is something I have noticed. For all the mythology in our culture about women being the gold diggers; from personal experience I’ve noticed that men aren’t exactly hanging with any broke chicks either.

I get the “lower your standards” one ALL the fucking time from my female friends! It makes me so mad! What the heck, so wanting a man who respects me as a human being and is willing to have a truly equal partnership is having “too high standards”? Well then, I most DEFINITELY prefer to be alone forever vs. being with…

Oh yeah, the advice. I get that it comes from (or can come from) a loving place, but I’m with Barbara Ehrenreich on this—in Bright Sided, she argues that we live in a culture that firmly believes that we can overcome anything, even cancer in the case of this book, with the right attitude. And it’s to our detriment,…

Aimée. You rock for sharing this story. It’s my story too.

I have a friend in the same situation as you exactly and, as the one who just kind of lucked into a good relationship, sometimes I struggle with not alienating her but also not walking on eggshells because I haven’t been in her situation really. I know the advice of “in a mixed social group, talk about other things…

I’ve been by myself for 7 and a half years and I’m so tired of being lonely. I’m an introvert and I function far too well on my own, but I so badly want to find love.  

They do! I have literally been asked exactly that.

I’m totally there with you. I’ll be 59 next month. I tried OKC, and one person ghosted on me when I said I ONLY rented, don’t own. It almost seems guys want to know your credit score before making any kind of move.

My aunt is single, never been married, has no kids, and took early retirement. She now draws her pension and also teaches kids with learning difficulties part time. She travels with her friends or alone (she has a youth hostel card and makes use of it!), dyes her hair mad colours and goes to shows/conventions for…

I can’t even watch people kiss on tv. Hurk.

Ugh. Everything about how we (meaning society) approach this whole relationship “goal” is so fucked up. We should all just be leading our best lives. If we happen, along the way, to find a person we want to share that life with, fine. If not, not. It should never be the goal of life. The goal should be living a…

A) Merry Christmas!

There’s nothing to understand. If someone is in the KKK, they’re a racist idiot.

I’m sorry, but you might want to consider what it means that you apparently are “ignorant” (your own words) about what the KKK stands for, why these people think the way they do and what they think without the aid of an A&E Documentary. You may also wish to consider that some of us are in fact not ignorant about these…

I guess, but god only knows how many dipshits will become sympathetic or get recruited. Free speech is like a pipe bomb with a mercury switch stuffed in a hot potato these days.