Agree. This is only the second time she’s attended since, I think, she got married? It would have been the perfect year for her to skip. She’s 7 months pregnant and no one would have blamed her. But she showed up and didn’t wear black which seems to be as much of a statement as wearing black, and here we are.

I do think she should’ve worn black because I don’t think that opposing sexual harassment is a political statement, but this is a no-win situation for her. Getting political is a big no-no for royals, so she would’ve been hammered if she’d worn black, but she’s also getting hammered for not wearing black. I think she…

I agree, but also think that people considering #Time’sUp “political” are either stupid or making (necessary, but pretty unaware) concessions to evil. There should be nothing more “political” in saying that sexual harassment is pervasive and has to stop than there is something “political” about supporting children…

Yes. I sit amongst women 10-20 years older than me (at least). All white, all upper middle class and all scoffed at me when I said it was a disgrace none of the men who won at the Globes addressed their colleagues, who were engaged in a protest in that very room. “Why should they?”

Many of them are also notable assholes to begin with, which, from what I hear, includes Deneuve.

She is a black woman with or without your approval.

If she were a white man, people would just shrug and say, well, he’s a former prosecutor, that’s what they do.

“She wouldn’t shut the fuck up.”

She was so awesome today and it made me very proud to have voted for her in the last election.

They were mostly pissed off because she wouldn’t let Jefferson Davis Sessions run out her time with long-winded non-responsive monologues.

“Neurotypical privilege” ? You cannot be serious. Oh, my god.

As someone with the exact same illness as the friend, I can clarify that this is bullshit. Mental illness sucks balls, and bipolar disorder makes it hella hard to maintain good relationships with people, but it’s no excuse for being an asshole. The things that the friend said to the writer’s husband were cold and…

I’m Bipolar and I dumped 2 shitty friends for absolutely valid reasons. It was a couple of years ago and I’ve no regrets. In fact, cutting them out of my life was a smart decision when it came to my emotional well-being.

We owe no one the position and privilege to abuse us. Saying to someone that they’re a leech and unworthy of respect etc is abuse. No person, for no reason, deserves or needs to tolerate that.

Whatever the root cause, toxic is toxic, no one is obligated to keep toxic people in their lives.

Exactly. There has to be a level of self-preservation in any relationship. This “they’re sick/need help” bullshit martyr syndrome is part of what keeps us in abusive relationships of all kinds. NO. We don’t owe anyone the privilege to abuse us.

You cannot help someone who doesn’t want help. And in case you misunderstood (if we’re going to be snarky and disrespectful) this person was unfriended. She had made her feelings clear. She does not want her former friend. And insisting “no no, really, you don’t actually not want to be my friend, you just need help” -…

You leave abusive relationships. Period.

But the friend dumped the author, not the other way around. I think ignoring your friend’s express wishes that she doesn’t want to be around you because you’re certain she didn’t really mean it and it was just her mental illness talking is incredibly gross and highly questionable. Being someone’s friend does not…

Fuck that. When someone with no stake to claim and nothing to lose tries to undermine your foundation - they’re trying to hurt YOU. And if their behavior is symptomatic of their mental disorder, and it’s damaging to your home and health, then it’s probably best if you stay far away.