I don't have any kids, but I do have great memories of going to summer camp as a kid.

Yeah, I do this too, and it has been a great strategy for me. My biggest peeve about "dieting" is all the planning and counting and weighing and sorting that has to go on - it's like a full-time job, and it's boring and I HATE it. (I have thyroid disease and other metabolic issues, so I can't just "cut out soda and…

It's ok. I think it's very hard to have total empathy unless you've really been there yourself. I participate in an online infidelity support group. There are so many people there who had strong views about how they (or others) "should" react to infidelity and then ended up acting in the complete opposite way when it…

It is definitely not a path for the faint of heart. I'm sorry, and I hope that you are in a better place now.

Most of my prior beliefs about infidelity were revealed to be fairly naive post-infidelity, chief among those being "the right thing to do is to immediately divorce the cheater". Long-term marital relationships are very complex, there are a lot of different factors to weigh in terms of trying to get an optimal outcome…

Just wanted to respond about this one thing since it might not have been clear from my original post: although my husband cheated and lied about stuff related to his cheating, he never once blamed me for anything or said it was my fault. And we've never had a single conversation about my reactions being inappropriate…

I have less information about what they did during this time than about what he did, so I don't know what kind of manipulation might have taken place. However, I have never assigned them any responsibility for what he did. He was 43 years old and fully capable of making his own decisions. Even if she literally offered…

Trying to work it out has been the most challenging thing I have ever done, and we are definitely not there yet. It's very difficult to rebuild trust after it has been shattered. I have heard that couples who do manage to reconcile usually take 2-5 years to fully reconcile (but many who make it through claim their…

You know, I look back on this, and I can see that the big picture is that I really did get my shit together after all this crazy stuff went down. But in a lot of ways I definitely do not feel like a bad ass - I still have a lot of down days, I still think about his affair every day and ruminate more than I would like…

Yeah, one of the things that really killed me about this was that I had been totally supportive of their marriage and their lifestyle - I never judged them about it, I was happy for them because they seemed to be happy. They had no respect for my marriage or lifestyle, however, and they didn't even have the fortitude…

Thank you.

Thank you. That's one of the nicer compliments I've ever received.

I really think a lot of the women who do this have serious emotional problems. What a horrible thing to do to a friend who trusts you.

Holy shit. This is the worst one in this thread. Live-in friend helping your partner cheat while you are going through chemotherapy and they tell you on your birthday. This has got to be the winner. Huge hugs to you. :-(

Ooooh, that's bad. Sorry. :-(

In the summer of 2013, I had spent 8 Very Long, Very Hard years in graduate school and was a mere two weeks away from defending my Ph.D. My monogamous husband of 8.5 years went over to visit our closest couple friends' of 5 years house to drink and play video games while I worked on all of my dissertation shit.…

You are welcome! I was so excited when I found it - it really is hard to find anything plus-sized that actually has a discernible shape.

Completely agree. I need MORE structure in my clothing than skinnier girls, not less! I seriously despise this trend of flow-y, drape-y clothing. I think it started because that kind of material is cheaper to make and they also don't have to do the work of fitting patterns - they can just throw a piece of some gross…

Well, that's disappointing. :-(

I also read a report a few years back indicating that several Nile crocodiles had been found in the Everglades. :-(