I agree with a lot of this. I think online dating is ... let’s just say it wasn’t right for me because I kept feeling like the spark “wasn’t there” and probably rejected some good guys. Later on (mercifully) I got to know someone organically in a group based on mutual interests and conversation, and attraction built…

On Reddit r/foreveralonewomen, the mods keep the single-haters out as far as I know. I think you have to get approved to post in there.

I think it’s that “lower your standards” part that explains why they’re always in relationships :-) Truth be told, I think I was too picky before I met the right one, but if I hadn’t been, maybe I wouldn’t have met the one that was more right for me than the previous ones I may have rejected on flimsy grounds. I…

I felt like I had a pretty good answer for SOME people: “having grown up around people who pushed too much on there being only one way, married, the sooner the better, I rebelled and couldn’t get away from that kind of constricted conventionality fast enough. I go back and forth nowadays but still get the…

Thank you, thank you! I am so tired of right-wing Christians denigrating singles when St. Paul said it was better to be single!!!

I agree that it’s the luck of the draw.

I got married at 57, he 68, first time for both. We’ve been together 11 years, and very happy.

I really don’t think Bumble is for the women to sort the men on the basis of handsomeness. Bumble exists because so many women get so many tons of unsolicited dick pics and so much harassment from men on other sites. Bumble is for women to do the choosing, more for decorum and politeness’ sake than looks. Present…

I’ll bet you anything that’s a dude

Well if anybody in this whole thread sounds “spiritual,” you sure do, you loving and compassionate person you

Same here. I have long-term care insurance. For which I’m getting mighty pushback in the other thread about “who’ll take care of you in your old age.”

P.S. the reason I got long-term care insurance at such a young age was that when I quit smoking I thought I was getting MS. One of my relatives got a bad form of MS. Someone where I work got MS and told me about the new option to get long-term care insurance cheap with no exam and to jump at it. So we both did. …

OK, let’s look at it from Jacob Mc’s angle. If I didn’t get long-term care insurance, my relatives might have reason to wonder if I’m going to look around at them when I get old and need help. By getting it, I was able to let my relatives know I’m not expecting that. I know just how much money my relatives stand to…

I’d go right ahead and comment on the keeping-up-marketable-skills thing, because it’s a very important aspect of life and so true. Those married people could find themselves suddenly single at any moment.

Well, if you read reddit /r/relationships, there are a fair number of posts where the husband does everything and the wife sits around. Honest.

That is for damn sure. I finally found the love of my life and while he’s a total sweetie pie in almost every way, I’m totally exhausted. Multiple full-time jobs is right. I’m not complaining—there are a lot of reasons I’m willing to keep handling everything that I handle and have accepted that I get the lion’s…

Insurance doesn’t work like “you get a payout equal to what you put in.” They do depend, in part, I’ve heard, on people letting it lapse. The younger you are when you start paying, the lower your premiums. There are state-by-state rules on how much they can raise the premiums.

Has no one in this thread heard of long-term care insurance? Or a living trust? I got both when i was single and 44. The living trust is intended to preserve my nest egg so that more can go to my siblings. I let them know that if they need to stick me in a nursing home and sell my belongings, they get money. …

I look at it this way. I might one day end up walking past their sick kids begging on the street one day. Looking at me with big sad sick eyes. It wasn’t the kids’ faults. I always say this to “Poor people shouldn’t have kids” types. It’s not the kids’ fault. There they are, in the street, looking at me, hungry and…

Do you mean that you think we got hacked by Russia in 02, 04, 08, 12? I always thought a handful of sinister Republican operatives or sympathizers hacked Ohio in 04, Georgia in 02 maybe. http://www.salon.com/2004/02/09/voting_machines_5/