Somewhat unrelated, as a black man, I've heard the phrase "I've never actually been with a black guy before." The statement might be objectively true, but the moment I hear it, it turns me off because I feel like I'm dating a tourist. I'm dating someone who's into the novelty and there are probably preconceived…

I'm a white man and I love women of all races, colors and creeds. Over the past 30 years I've dated Chinese, Irish, African, Thai, Italian, Mexican. Tall, short, overweight and borderline anorexic. Big chested, flat chested, long hair, short hair, redheads, blondes, brunettes. I've dated liberals and conservatives.…

I am a white female and I adore Asian men. Quite frankly it's because of their shape. The curve of their calf and the broad, yet slender shape of their back makes my uterus fall out. Three of the nine men I've legit dated have been Asian. One was a jock, the other was a theater kid, and the last was a punk with a…

This is probably a stretch since I'm only "1/4" filipino, but my longest relationship (6 years) was with an African American girl. I am probably as race blind as they come though—I'm attracted to women that are smart, funny, quirky, and have nice skin—whatever color it is. I suppose if I had to state a physical…

But there are people who date redheads or blondes and it isn't made into an issue like white men and Asian women.

It's probably because I was around a lot of them during my schooling, therefore, that's who I am attracted to. If I went to a school that was predominately white or Latino or black, it probably slides the other way. But I think it's just the simple theory of being attracted to the people I was around the most and it…

Attractions & preferences are indeed determined by our environment & other factors, but it doesn't follow from there that they're necessarily fueled by fetishism or self-loathing. My second paragraph was entirely sincere.

Just some stats to add to the discussion.

I'm a white guy who grew up in a section of the east SF Bay Area that had a large Asian population at the time. Sure, I had my "clik" of white friends, but most of my friends were Asians of some sort (Chinese, Korean, Filipino, Japanese, etc.). Growing up around Asians was just a part of life to me, and never had…

Hearted for agreement. I think all my black girlfriends, myself included, are extremely open to dating other races for this exact reason — it's a numbers game, so why not better your chances where you can?

So I am married to an Asian woman (she was born in Maryland, but move to Taiwan and lived there for 8 years before coming back to the US in her Jr. year of high school. She still considers herself more Chinese than American).

You are lucky. I'm blonde/blue eyed so I get the white supremacists. Incidentally, white supremacists have no game what so ever.

We really need more sexy Asian men on TV and movies. Because there are a lot of them out there. Actually, we need more sexy men of all races in the media, because sexy men are good for the soul.

Hm. I guess I have a thing for dark haired/dark eyed/pale-skinned girls. My previous asian girlfriend mostly fit into that category. My current jewish wife does as well.

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High five! I'm a white woman married to an Asian man as well. (Although my brother is married to an Asian woman, so I think I'm cancelled out.) Question for you: did you change your name? And if you did, do you get confused cashiers/clerks/people writing your name down for various reasons asking you "What kind of…

Huh. The only reason this white boy fell in love with and married an asian girl was because she was awesome. Nothing to do with her being asian...

yes. lets just write an article and call it "why people date people"....i date people because i was raised in a Latin@ community and find that people really understand me.

I'm a white woman married to an Asian man... just doing my small part to buck the stereotype.