I’d be really happy if that was the most victim blamiest thing I’ve heard/read lately. Because women being blamed for other people’s negative thoughts and actions is a paramount issue IMO. It’s a huge problem to tackle. It’s encouraging to see people speaking up about it.

Yes. I’m diminishing “the credit a woman deserves for her choices” by pointing out that her situation has some pretty huge red flags for abuse and that I hope her situation improves. Because that kind of empathy and support is condescending and undermines her hard work and success as a grown woman. ??? I don’t agree…

I agree and I’m a little alarmed that I scrolled down this far and saw only a couple comments focused on his abusive behavior. This guy’s behavior and their history is full of glaring red flags that are typical with abuse. I’m very concerned for her safety and well being. The comments that seem to give him credit…

You’re making it sound awesome. I want to go to a dirty, dirty mall where only trashy people hang out. I bet you’ll make work sound appealing too. Do that one next!

Noooo! He is though. He is literally boogie-ing the fuck out. That man has lit my peri- menopausal loins on fire! I think several of us here will battle for him. Or share? Because I’m sleepy and it’s more fun with other people getting so much happy on. But you’re right, no one better tell him or he might stop. He’s my…

Ok. I’m beginning to love this Dave Poulin and realize I was a fool for taking him for granted.

😂 I was wondering why there was a statue of a young boy dragging a calf on a leash around a public park. I was like “this one isn’t so bad”. I can tell what it is, except why? Why all the calf dragging? What does it mean?

Apparently she pissed and called it rain- which was the part I missed. But that’s cool. Thanks for taking the time to respond.

Honest q: do you see her statement as an denial or or deliberate obfuscation or maybe something else? I was seeing deliberate very vague vagueness. But I’m cool being lied to about stuff that is not my business also. If I asked a woman “hey, did you get some fake /new hair?”, “hey, did you put on some weight?” , “hey,…

I disagree. I’m sober and I don’t mind when people use mind altering substances during their leisure time any more than I mind sober people. Probably far less, frankly. If people are a little slurry or dance, or hug a bit more- I’m sure I can handle it and not give anyone anything to feel ashamed about later. Judgey…

I vote for staying home or lightly/politely vandalizing unfun “parties” full of nerds who hate fun and are actually plotting an entire detailed strategy that amounts to a 2 drink minimum.

I starred your comment because I think I see what you’re saying but I might only half-agree. This micro lens on women is egregious. The intent is clearly to tear apart women with boundless arguments and invalidate them. A witch hunt for every trait and action. It’s not just surgery, weight, looks, etc it is every…

You’re awesome for even considering the opposite point of view. From my end I feel like the dismissive tone we all take toward women’s beauty really just rubs off on us from the dismissive condescension that covers all “women’s work”. I’m also not a fan of beauty pageants for women because the tone feels degrading…

Me too! I love all the decor just the way it is. Makes me forget I’m sober.

A long explanation is good! Gives context and I think helps women evaluate for themselves what kind of guy is likely to be true friend material. Patterns of long term multiple platonic friendships with women and a certain style of emotionally candid relating might be key points. Then there’s just the vibe. But I think…

They’re being “professional” in order to get by without creating more friction that may hurt their careers later. It’s not earnest- just one of many obligations. Actors always praise their costars and directors publicly with a stock set of compliments. When they don’t the consequences are huge.

Can I ask if you had platonic relationships with women you did not want to have sex with before you met your wife? Not leaping to judgement- just curious.

The horrible truth is that you are already doing the right thing. I’ve watched this dance for decades. It might start out ok. The harder the woman tries the less the man tries. Until eventually the woman realizes she is putting in twice the effort than if she were handling everything without him and walks. This is not…

Dan Savage’s advice for women= A+ trolling. Pretty much whatever he says do the opposite unless the advice is DTMFA. That’s usually the only reliable advice he spews. He’s like a gay Dr. Phil pushing the absolute worst advice meanwhile completely devoid of insight. I have no idea how anyone can read his column clearly…

The body modification and hard work models and beauty pageant contestants put in are just as extreme, painful, and difficult as bodybuilding. No one who competes and makes a living from physical appearances skates by on being “born pretty”. Not anymore than a person born with natural intelligence casually skates into…