Go to a tattoo/piercing parlor, rather than somewhere like the mall where they use a piercing gun. Needles are safer and usually more sterile, plus the person who is doing it has more experience.

Why are they speaking about their black friends in the past tense? Can someone check on their friends, please?

Why are people explaining to you about how horror works this is so annoying

What in the fuck! You are hilarious but this was genuinely terrifying.

It also really bugs me when it’s about a relationship with one’s father. My mother took my father’s name. If my decision to keep my name or jettison it for my husband’s name is dependent on my relationship or lack thereof with my father, what does that say for my mother? She’s had that name since the early 80's—is it…

I got married almost 8 years ago, and I kept my name. It is so weird to me that it is the normal, expected thing for an American woman to change her name when we get married to a man, and that instead of moving forward in time from the hypenated names of the 90s to everyone gets to have their own identity, seemingly…

YES. So much this. Ultimately, this is the goal of every bigot and Russian Troll—to sow doubt and dissension and make us not vote.

I feel like so many people don’t want to accept that looking for a relationship involves work. Having a relationship and maintaining a relationship also involves work. Like, there are plenty of people who are single and its not their fault, but the number of people whose soul mate just fell out of the sky into their…

This is how I feel about those fuckers who shove train and elevator doors open when they’re closed except for an inch.

That is always my favorite thing. “Oh, it’s snowing! Everyone go home!”

Me too! I feel better now.

Yes!! Reminded of this terrific essay by Gloria Steinem which is , of course, still so relevant.

Her work is specialized and NASA is kind of a big deal. No one expects you to stay at a job for 10 years anymore—in fact, they often look down on those who do. Why not, if it is a good offer, take the job with an eye toward getting a more geographically desirable position in a few years?

I was a sex-positive partner, open to a lot, who enjoyed giving my partners pleasure and was vocal about what I wanted. Apparently, that was not enough for approximately 80% of the men I had sex with, who would insist on doing things like suddenly choking me during sex without warning. I really don’t understand men.

YES Misfits. That show was just the best.

Was pleasantly surprised to see that the headline is a bit misleading. You seem to be saying less “we don’t need gun control because the problem is white fear & racism” and more “until we address white racism & fear, we will not get gun control.” Yes, yes and yes. It is so frustrating. I mean, it’s become a trite…

Thank you for this! Here’s the thing: she is welcome to swan around wherever in period gear. If she does it at the Met, people will assume she’s a costumed interpreter and will expect that she works there and can maybe lead a tour. If she says or does something untoward, it’s their reputation that gets ruined.

Here’s the thing: that is unnecessary and unrelated cross chatter. Time after time after time, these mass shootings (especially the school ones) are committed by people who recently purchased the gun and ammunition. It will therefore help a lot if we make it harder to purchase guns. Asking what to do about guns…

You and me both. And I’m extra worried about it because everyone kept telling me I was just being silly when I was like, “this election feels like a referendum on this country’s racism/sexism and I think we’re going to not like the answer” and showing me graphs about how Hillary was gonna win. So yeah.

Sorry, just freaking out for a moment because my favorite grad school professor is being referenced on my favorite blog by Henry Louis Gates Jr.