What??? That’s amazing! Way to go!

Maybe your family isn’t like mine, but mine drove me craaaaazy leading up to the wedding with their suggestions and their neediness and their failure to RSVP and their criticism. And although my parents have perfectly functional cell phones, my relatives were still calling ME to ask me things like where to find the…

Good luck! I don’t know your situation but I’m like 7 days ahead of you and the letter I wrote to the seller introducing us and telling her what we loved about the house and how we wanted to cherish it was the top reason why she accepted our offer.

Of course! Especially since you can’t take it down after a while. It bugs me, though, when people find it and respond to it like 3 years later. The Toast went belly-up almost a year ago and I just got a notification of a new comment there!

SO. Last week at this time I was nervously biting my nails waiting to see if the seller would accept our offer (and also starting the process of thinking “well, it’s fine, no one gets their first choice of house anyway,” etc) and then! Monday morning we found out that she accepted our offer! We were forced to not ask…

So it sounds like the first guy doesn’t want to go down on anyone, and is really looking for an answer as to whether, in order to ever have sex again, he has to. He doesn’t, and here, based on many years of successfully and unsuccessfully having sex with straight and bisexual men as a vagina-possessing person, is my…

“This is a wall. THIS is a wall. This is a wall. THIS is a wall.”

I mean, even if the girl and then woman did her best to make the best of a situation--god, even if she ended up loving him or something, it still does not make what he did even close to ok. When you have sexual intercourse with someone who does not have the right or recourse to say no, even when you do it over the…

Happy almost birthday! That pizza looks amazing. Not sure if I should admit this but I was feeling anxious today and basically ate french fries with meat on them for lunch. Which were amazing, of course.

Good god, I had no idea that these were a thing until reading this interview! D: is my only reaction.

Yes! This looks amazing and I’ve added it to my to-read. Also open to any other recommendations for amazing, diverse historicals! I love Jeannie Lin and Beverly Jenkins (though I’m kind of weirded out by Jenkins characters and their orgasmic nipples).

Thank you to everyone who posted advice in response to my house query last week! You were all really helpful. We did end up persevering and finding an agent who is terrific—she took us to 5 houses in the pouring rain and talked us out of a house that we’d been thinking of because the basement was just filled with…

Yeah. All of that- the wife, the woman at work sleeping with you, the women around town giving you a blow job- that is not polyamory. And there’s a very clear give and receive dynamic and the reciever is pretty much constantly the man. What poly people describe over and over and over again is that there’s a lot of…

It’s the smiley face that really seals the deal on this comment. Cheers to that!

Excuse you, but those wires were “tappped.” With 3 p’s.

What? No. We just kept asking you nicely if you wanted to be a part of this fabulous country and you said no for some reason.

Oh god absolutely! But I also think it began before African slaves began to be imported en masse, when Europeans were colonizing territory with religion, disease, guns and trade and competing with other Europeans and indigenous Americans for resources.

Well, I mean, I was kidding because I studied history in college. But sort of? I mean, I think we generally like to leave Canada out. You didn’t really have anything to do with the War of 1812, right? ;)

The answer to your question is really, really complicated, and taps into an entire historiography of debate between scholars about why socialism never was able to take root here. The bootstraps mythos, the greed and simultaneous fear that someone will come and take what is yours any minute—they are deeply rooted in…

At some point, you have to make the choice between protecting yourself and your boundaries and pleasing folks. I know that this sounds harsh, but I say this from experience. People often do not like it when you do things that they don’t approve of (blocking this guy, for instance), but if he stomps all over your…