Dude is me actually (it’s ok, usually a good bet around here).

Said I’d probably re-post today ;)

I was so done with relationships and love and having someone in my life when I dumped my boyfriend at 24. Even in retrospect, it’s remarkable that the guy I thought was just going to be a distraction from my despression and grad school is the guy I’ve been engaged to for a few years now. I’m still a bitter old hag,…

I honestly thought I would never find someone but a few months ago I met the most amazing man.

It will be alright. Granted I am 31 and single right now, so no story of a change in spinsterhood from me. However, I am enjoying being single in my 30s. I eat like shit, clean when I want to, have really amazing sex with a guy I have no future with and just generally live how I want to. Yeah, I do get lonely…

I am actually friends with one ex, and friend-ly with all but one. There’s a saying, “if you can still be friends with your ex, you’re either still in love or never were”. I think it's good to message and catch up but you're gambling with your/her feelings if you progress to regular hang outs. But I completely…

Are you me? Because this is my exact situation.

I am also here in support. 30 and perpetually single.

The flinching...yeah, that’s bad. It sounds like you have some internalized anti-blackness going on. Now, that’s totally normal and expected for someone who grew up (as we all did) in a white supremacist power structure. I mean, I’m biracial (black/white), and I still find my brain traveling down those old, prejudiced…

Nothing to say other than that I’m here with ya and need to hear these stories.

Are you worried that your black friends or even black strangers will judge you for dating him? Do you tense up like that when you’re not with him?

So I was wondering if you can really remain friends with your ex. Mine contacted me out of the blue and said she would send me some money she owed me that I had given up ever getting. It was kind of shocking and out of nowhere. We’ve been Facebook Messageing and it’s been nice, not i’m wanting to get back together but…

I know its totally cliche but be yourself and don’t forget to listen. Other than that have a great time! :D

Uh, yeah, I thought I’d die alone and be eaten by my pets until someone noticed the smell. But then, a few weeks before my 25th birthday I met a wonderful man in a bar and we’ve been together for more than four years now.

Had a date last night, a real actual date for the first time in about 4.5 years. I just had to shout it out here because reasons. Guys...I totally forgot what this feels like. It’s really nice

AHHHHHH I hate the ex-is-seeing-someone realization! That is so shitty. I have nothing to offer but warm feelings and the total confidence that you can better and he is missing out!

Okay Jezzies, I want to hear your tales about thinking you were going to be a spinster and then finding an amazing dude. I’m 26 and I am feeling like I will never be in love again and it’s getting me down. Intellectually I understand that is ridiculous and I am too young to start collecting cats. As far as I can tell,…

Two days in a row? Thanks Jez :) I’m heading out on a date with a guy from work in 30 mins. We have plans for dinner then going to see his friend’s band play a show. I’m freaking the fuck out and I’ve been ready for over an hour now. Tips/advice to not screw this up appreciated. Hope everyone is having a great…

I was so worried we wouldn’t be having one of these tonight!