Sounds like fantasy sports to me.

why can't you be both a career woman and one who likes pretty things and has a fantasy party planned? What other event in your adult life allows you to go nuts with flowers, fantasy gowns, professional lighting, ect? For some people it is just fun to think and plan and look. It doesn't have to mean something deep and…

I'm not having a Thanksgiving nightmare, I'm having a Thanksgiving AWESOME.

I put butter, salt and pepper, garlic, fresh chives, and vegan mayonnaise in my mashed potatoes.

I know I've mentioned this, but my Thanksgiving Secret Weapon is my credit card, yo. I ordered the entire dinner online, from Whole Foods two weeks ago, in bed, while sipping some pino grigio. I did this last year, and the food was seriously fucking good. Last year my sister was over, behaving like the New York…

Yeah. When you really boil it down, it ends up actually meaning, "I didn't used to have to hear about this and now I do." Which is ultimately the sort of solipsistic garbage that fills just about every newspaper columnist's weekly excretum.

Almost 800 words that could have just been replaced with #notallmen and it would have made just as much sense.

I get it that we're critiquing him for longing for some delusional picture of a real American Man that never actually existed in the first place, and I know that it's not just men who rape, but can all dudes everywhere just seriously get their acts together? Honestly, college rapists and their enablers need some kind…

Something I wish more other men would think about:

I had a conversation yesterday with a man that was about exactly this. He's probably in his late 50s, early 60s, and he started out saying, with reference to Bill Cosby, "hey, so he had a lot of sex, so what?" Because this is someone I know, I fought not to get mad, and said, "Well, I don't think anyone really cares…

I really only feel grateful in the context of hearing a story like Kelly's. In the context of my own life, I never felt grateful to any of those men for not raping me, and I'm quite sure no one expected me to.

What I don't understand is why isn't prudence and cautiousness with regards to getting consent more of an idea amongst these frat guys? Don't any of them cower in fear that some feminazi is gonna cry rape and therefore take great pains to ensure he's like, actually getting enthusiastic consent from any ladies? It…

I am a man and UVA grad (CLAS '02). I was never into the frat scene and it's stories like this that are why. I think we should encourage all men attending UVA that you can have a blast (A BLAST!) and not have to contribute to the culture that condones this type of behavior. DATE RAPE AINT FUCKING COOL BRO.

Bless your parents for listening to their own intuition.

Oy a jerk made that joke to my bf and he said "I know you think that's funny but rape victims have a horrible time getting justice and you just did the equivalent of telling a racist joke." She called him an asshole with no sense of humor.

This has reduced me to tears. Not because I had the same experience — because I didn't. I drank like an alcoholic fish during my college years — in parties at my college, and in bars (where I lied about my age), and in frats, and in guys' rooms at other colleges, and basically anyplace I could get ahold of booze. …

I get what she is saying about UVA being mostly par for the course, but I am also just remembering when I seriously looked into going to the school. I got in, went to admitted students weekend, and everything. It has so many great things - beautiful campus, great classes, etc. - but what eventually really turned me…

Totally. The thing that makes me the most sad is that this guy probably helped because he wasn't in that frat or trying to rush it. I mean, maybe this guy is just a truly decent person, but I have no faith in frat boys to make the right decisions when it comes to their "brothers" or whatever.

Fuck. This. Shit.

If I could find a man who could stand to sit home with my kids all day without pulling his hair out, that, my friend, would be marrying UP.