True that. A lot of Jez’s articles on having kids tend to devolve into a bunch of “ugghhh what self respecting woman would ever do that????” and that’s honestly just as bad as “you’re defective if you don’t want kids.”

As someone with a child, I say good for fucking you without the snarky tone that Twinkle’s comment seemed to convey. I was on the fence about having children and if my husband had said “nah” I would have been perfectly happy just having a bunch of dogs and no kids.

It probably would have helped you tons to have am experienced CERTIFIED MIDWIFE, not just a barely certified doula. A decent midwife would have palpated you for the presentation of the kid, relized it was not a good orientation, relaxed yuo as much as possible and then turned the kid. One nasty ouch and then no more…

I fully support your decision to not have a baby, but for real, the best reasons are the one’s like “having to support and raise another human for possibly the rest of its life.” Birth horror stories are the ones you hear about, because the only saving grace to going through horrible labor is getting to brag on it. No…

worst article ever. horrifying women for shock value, for ratings and who know what other ends.

“I’m only 37, for fuck’s sake. I can’t live like this.”

Seconded. Things down there aren’t “normal” for awhile—- possibly a year or two—- after pushing out a baby, but many women, myself included, bounce back just fine with time and those pesky kegels. Every woman’s experience is differnet but for those of you who haven’t given birth and intend to in the future, all is not…

FYI, folks who haven’t pushed a baby out: my shit was also wrecked, but my vag was as tight as ever after about year. I did literally nothing, too. Just, like, 2 kegels whenever I happened to read the word “kegel” in my everyday life. I’m not doubting the author’s story, just saying that there is variation.