Presentating black women as unshakable is a really specific kind of model minority thinking that removes access to help without respecting feelings or agency. It’s dehumanizing.

That is fucking ridiculous - I was on the Metro a few months ago and a white woman started yelling at a woman of color who was sipping from a COVERED travel mug. I happened to have a bottle of water on me (I usually don’t) so I got it out and invited the woman to join me in a drink and told the white woman to mind her…

A yt man followed me into the bathroom on the train. A really nice trains. I was so shocked. I was 120 pounds, did NOT have to do #2 and almost shit myself. If he closed the door behind him my life would have been different. I threw a roll of toilet paper at him hitting his nose, not hard but the evil in him paused…

Thank you for writing this. The strong black women in my family are rocks, however, because of the myth that they can’t break, they have not dealt with the mental health issues that comes along with being a black women in a yt supremacist, capitalist patriarchy. I’ve broken that cycle and have gotten help, all the…

The comments on this post (thankfully grays) are a perfect illustration of how people are ready to attack black women just for existing. Good job, trolls!

Thank you so much for writing about this so eloquently. I was bullied, harassed, and undermined by a coworker (white male) for two years. It was hell. He was “reprimanded” by HR, but when it continued, they seemed to just get tired of me, and I got the feeling that they thought I was being dramatic. So I didn’t even…

This...

I read your words and I am teetering between frustration and sadness. I applaud your ability to celebrate your peers in a manner that was never extended to you — while timing is everything, the least they could have done was make sure you were okay after the dust settled. Professionally, I’ve experienced the slow…

I don’t have a horse, but if I did, I certainly wouldn’t give it drugs.

In Bateman’s case, I’m not necessarily of the mind that he’s hiding skeletons of his own. I actually know a lot of guys like this. What I recognize here is insouciant white bro confidence which allows them to believe they’re the objective arbiter of all subjects, coupled with a deep-seeded West Coast aversion to any…

But that’s exactly my point: The “decent” ones are fucked up too. The “feminist” men, the liberals, the good guys. Get them into the right conversation, and they will still say the wrong thing.

I’ve made some progress with my husband. A few years ago I had an issue with an office co-worker, I was debating going to HR about it and my husband basically said, “HR won’t do anything and it’ll be worse for you if you say something.” And while he may have had a point, it really hurt how he kind of blew off my…

Same here. That interview gave me second-hand anxiety. It’s so familiar and hurtful.

“they all, ALL are this way?”

“I felt so uncomfortable hearing a woman talk about her abusive experience that I had to try to fix it so we could forget about it.”

I am dealing with this and I don’t know how to handle it. Men who I thought were halfway decent have said some of the dumbest things and then gotten mad and doubled down when I pointed out why it’s a problem. How am I supposed to live with these beings when they all, ALL are this way?

Bateman’s conflict avoidant mansplaining apologia is unfortunately super familiar to me. So is his humble heartfelt apology. And so is the part when a week, a month, a year from now he says or does some other shit that makes it perfectly clear he didn’t learn nearly as much from this as he’ll give himself credit for.

Fuck Bateman and the rest of the AD dudes. They showed the world what they’re like when they’re together and how they dismiss and talk over their women coworkers. True colours.

“I was so busy maintaining the status quo that I forgot to remember that women matter.”

Tweeting a correction means nothing since the majority of their audience only watches the show. They sent out a correction like this specifically so that they can say they corrected their ‘mistake’ without having to actually own up to it on air.