This was a stupid post. 

Let me introduce you to Al B. Sure!

I’m fairly young in my profession as well and I always see shocked faces when I say what my role is and that I’m not “someone’s spouse.” Sometimes people point blank note that I’m young and ask what my experience is like I have to prove to them that I’m qualified for the job. It’s gotten to the point where I actually w…

When men ask what microaggressions are, this is a good example, because it happens over and over and over. Grace Meng is right on the money. Let’s make this the new normal.

I’m a black attorney and when I used to go to court regularly, everyone assumed I was one of the defendants. I would be in a suit and have my files with me but would still get told I would be called up to the bench when it was time for the judge to hear my plea.

I never thought Lean In was okay. Her message essentially boiled down to, “Ladies, if you’re not being promoted at work, it’s your own fault. You’re just not ambitious enough! Gotta ignore your responsibilities at home, work all the time, even if you’re pregnant, and take the less prestigious positions you’re offered a…

Yup. As my housemate said, the problem with American feminism is White women.

In your case, I would strongly recommend documenting everything. Every time your boss says something good about your performance, send them a follow-up email that says, “Thank you for complimenting my work on XYZ.” And if someone makes a comment about pregnancy (yours, others, family planning, etc.) send an email to…

She was fired after a month. If there were performance issues, Avon better have heaps of evidence to prove it. 

Weeellll.....

YOU GOT A DEAL, PARTNER.

as a Gen Xer I agree with you. Millennials should be our best bud for busting up boomer bullshit.

“Had he been a woman or a person of color, there is no way on God’s green earth that he would still be a candidate.”

As many people on Twitter point out, abusers cry. My abuser cried. Crying is sometimes what abusive men do because they don’t have a handle on their feelings or behavior; they’re angry and confused and scared. It’s so similar to when a child cries during a temper tantrum. They know enough to understand right from…

Admittedly, I did not listen to Dr Ford’s part of the hearing, I was at work and I knew it would just upset me. I did listen to part of Kavanaugh’s because I was curious about how he would defend himself against her detailed (and entirely believable) accusations. I expected a professional to come out and sit down and…

If a woman had behaved the way Belligerent Brett behaved yesterday she would be finished. That’s why like Dr. Ford, we’re all trained to be “nice ladies” who have to accommodate, demure and smile through all the horse shit thrown at us. 

I am furious at Oscar Isaac for wasting his hotness on this maudlin crying porn. He’s going to have to do a lot of making out with John Boyega if he expects my forgiveness.

True all that.

Williams got a heap of shit for Ledger’s passing. Never mind that they’d been separated for nearly a year when he died, or that she was trying to protect her daughter. Or that he was a GROWN ASS MAN. 

The perception that women are supposed to be their male partner’s therapist and emotional support, to the detriment of their own well-being, is pervasive. It’s why, more often than not, you see a lot of tv and film with the psychologist characters played by women - and they often deal with fairly trash men (or worse…