I appreciate your response! It’s encouraging to know that there are guys out there who would compromise on a legacy. I personally feel strongly about my children having my last name at least hyphenated with my husband’s/partner’s, and haven’t met a guy who is open to that. Yet.

Ima need to watch this. It really speaks to me. I’m American, but feel the pressure to marry coming from society. However, people forget that the original intention of marriage worldwide was to become a man’s property. The woman is expected to drop her name, and become the caretaker of the family. There are…

The friends who are marrying _aren’t_ black — they’re Asian and white. Any black female friend that I have is single like me. Men try very hard to not be blamed for anything. In this case, there is a clear mindset that causes men to — en masse — to partner the least often with black women. In particular, black women…

I’m actually considering that too. I have male friends who would be great candidates. It’s more of a psychological thing for me, though — getting past the idea of having a romantic partner through it. A girl gets tired of being strong all the time. But a co-parent with a friend might be a good choice.

Not pickiness — it’s common sense. I have a great life, and I’m happy. A relationship is a no-go if either of those things changes. Granted, there are women who settle for unhappiness quite frequently just to have a the social acceptance and stability that a man may bring. I don’t need those things from a man, so…

Thanks for this. I’ve also thought about how having children with a donor may hurt my chances in the future with a man. But I’ve already hurt my chances by being dark-skinned, smart, and independent. The plus, though, would be that the children would have my name. I’ve always wanted that. If I married, a part of me…

It means that he’s looking at me as a black woman, and not a woman. I end up being just a curiosity to him, and when I — I dunno — talk about marriage and family, they usually can’t imagine it. Never fails.  

Damn, sorry to hear that about your friend. But that’s helpful to hear. I can’t imagine having a man in my home that I can’t spread my wings around. I’ve dated and looked, and I don’t think he’s out there. Time to work on my own plans.

Best of luck to you!! That’s encouraging to hear. I don’t want to end up waiting forever, and miss having a family because I couldn’t find a partner that treated me with respect. Great to hear that I’m not alone in this.

I just see a person who is full of joy. I’m a pretty calm person, but would totally run across the red carpet to see, like, Tracee Ross. I would lose my sh*t...I have a painting of her mom on my wall, y’all.

I hear you :)) It would be great for my kids to know their father. I have a wonderful relationship with mine, and having him in my life made it better. Hard to find that in guys nowadays. It would also be great to share responsibilities — raising a kid takes a lot of work. But I wouldn’t be the first to do it…

This. is. so. true. All of my white friends are getting married and having children. Meanwhile, I’m looking at donors. It’s not that I’m not desired at all (humbly speaking). It’s when the dating starts, I hear some crazy things that make me not want to pursue the relationship. He’s either controlling, doesn’t want…

I’ll be honest — I’ve enjoyed Scandal, and plan to catch up on HTGAWM on Netflix. But the crossover felt forced to me. I think my expectations were really high, though — two of my favs in one room felt weird. Like something should have combusted, but it didn’t. Anyway, I was just thrilled to see them together at the…

Dragging is sorta like making someone feel small for something they were proud of, and taking you time with it. Like if you went to the club with a scrunchy on and frosted hair tips, someone would drag you if they went on and on about how ridiculous you looked. As if you were hooked to the back of a car and dragged…

Both girls and boys are great, but girls tend to be — in my opinion — really insightful and verbal. There’s also a greater chance they’ll help you out when you’re old, tbh.

I love Ru too. I totally get his point, but I totally get everyone else’s point too. It makes one question what is drag, specifically? I’ve always know it to be a man using artistry to transform himself into a woman, similar to Kabuki theater. So Ru’s perspective makes sense in this context.

Makes me so angry how money and connections matter over brains and work ethic. And since white guys still have an institutional lock on the big money-making opportunities, is it another generation where women and people of color are left behind? When is the revolution starting?

MMA/UFC fan here. I wasn’t into the clip until Stephanie (whose name I just learned) slapped Ronda. I know it’s fake, but ooooo s**t!

Cool beans! I’m gonna take out my pink Lady Bic pen, and make a note that Scotch isn’t so scawwy now. *hearts*.

It’s an emoticon with forehead wrinkles, a double chin, and a big nose (obvi) ;-D