I’d say go for the wife. Of course the sex is dead if you have another option, a chance to get it somewhere else. Take that away and she’ll be the only one you can have sex with, so you will. Romantic feelings should return after that, even though perpetual romantic feelings are not necessary for a fulfilling marital…

I agree he looks hot now, so you’re not alone :)

I (=European) think it’s stupid and couldn’t understand why it exists (I’m beginning to understand as I go through the comments, but am still confused). So do most of my college-educated peers.

How about the mom who read a bedtime story to her kids as the water started flooding in? That gutted me, I’m a mother.

Good for you!

I understand you, I’m just saying it’s irrelevant whether you have single friends or not. If sbd wants to cheat they will do so in spite of not having single female friends; if sbd doesn’t want to cheat he can have as many single friends as he wants.

Just based on your comments I’ll take a guess and say I’m better aware of my limited personal experience and don’t try to pass off my opinion as law. Saying sth is always so is incredibly presumptuous. Even if you’re a 100 years old you haven’t imbibed all the life experience in the world.

How do you define emotional cheating, though? If sbd imagines a future with sth else, is that cheating? Even if they have no desire for that future, just imagine it? If sbd pictures sbd else during sex, is that cheating? Even if it’s a fictional character? If sbd “falls in love” with a stranger they never talk to and…

That last part is irrelevant; married people can (and do) cheat with other married people. It’s easier, in fact. Not saying you will, of couse, just that it’s no “alibi” that you have no single or even unmarried friends.

That’s not true. Sometimes crossing that boundary is EXACTLY what is needed to learn that cheating is pointless AND doesn’t feel good at all. Some people have to try everything once. That’s the same as saying that trying drugs once means they’ll do it again - many will, but not everyone at all.

What will you say if the gunman had sth against southern baptists and that was why he went on the rampage there?

I know and that was not my intention. I was replying to a commenter who explained the story is symbolic for how being the only girl at a LAN party feels and since my experience was completely different I understood the original commenter who was confused as to the meaning of the piece. If it’s not your own experience…

If you say so. I was the only girl at a LAN party a few times in my teens and never felt remotely like that. Maybe because they were bigger LANs with 20ish guys and 3 of those were my close friends, one my boyfriend so everybody was very nice, respectful and considerate?

You could claim the same about condoms, though, couldn’t you? They are not 100%, so just go ahead and keep trying. Yet they don’t say that (for reasons I don’t get, I’ve always wondered about that). If you won’t accept my argument, what is your counterargument, that is to say, your proof that marital sex ISN’T…

Catholic, too. I’ve never understood why the Church was against condoms, but not against NFP. NFP is not 100%, if God wants to give you a child, He will. Condoms are the same way, though. So are the pill, IUDs and all that. I understand that the problem with IUDs and the pill is in possible abortions, but why condoms,…

I like you very much. The number of times you have had to say you’re sorry and all that, this is probably the best response I’ve seen yet when sth like this happens - I like your style :D

Not quite. Catholics aren’t supposed to have sex in a way that is not conductive to conception. Infertile couples, either due to illness, injury or old age are still encouraged to have sex.

Nope. The purpose of marital sex is unitive and procreative. That’s why sex between husband and wife is still encouraged when one is rendered infertile due to disease, age or injury.

Wow. I wish everyone debated like you do.

Yes, OK. But if they truly don’t remember, what are they supposed to say? They should apologize, definitely, but if you truly don’t remember it’s fair to say so - at least the offended person will understand why the apology is very short and to the point, you can hardly expect someone to wax poetic on sth they don’t…