I'm happy to see this article! Of course, I may feel differently after some more comments flow in...

I feel that I'd fit into one of these groups, but I've never felt the desire to identify in any one particular way, though I understand that some people would like to in order to talk about their own personal experiences with people like them.

Do I need to get out the asexual erasure bingo cards!

Yeah I don't really... my libido is pretty low and I don't often have sex. Maybe I'm asexual.

Just as a general note, Tracy, your recent run of articles about sexual attraction have been really, really interesting!

I read up on asexuality a lot when I was a teenager because I was pretty certain I was asexual myself. I honestly had no sexual desire or urge until comparably late in the day and it felt like there was something very, very wrong with me. Reading about people who were the same way was comforting.

Eventually I did find…

what is the term for it when you want to have sex all the time but only with someone you really care about? I once went a couple of years between relationships and as a result between sexual encounters and a lot of people openly wondered if I was asexual/gay. All of these people were obviously guy friends

If, by "enliven", you mean hearing the word "frigid" thrown around a few thousand times, sure...!

Good question! There are a whole fuckton of us in this world. "Born-Again Celibate"? "Been There Done That Asexual"? "Already-Paid-My-Dues Grayzone"?

My first LGBTQ training was incredible, and began with this very spectrum. A thoughtful discussion around a sexual/asexual spectrum was one of the most enlightening things in which I've ever participated. Thanks for furthering it!

These people probably took one look at Pornhub, shook their head and said 'I'm out!'. And good for them.

Yesssssss. Wonderful article, Tracy. The idea that non-normative sexual desires, asexuality in particular, are unhealthy seems to be constantly regaining traction. Repeat after me, people: it is not sex-positive to shove your idea of healthy sex down other people's throats. It is not sex positive to presume a lack of…

I am 99% sure I fall into this category. I am glad it's getting more visibility, at least in some circles, but it is still something I struggle with every day. It's basically a constant source of guilt and shame for me, and being constantly bombarded with sex (thanks, society!) makes it that much harder. I was at a…

"the closer we will come to accepting that fixed and binary systems for understanding gender and sexuality are limiting and inaccurate".

So what is the made up term for "I haven't dated in a really long time and haven't had sex in over two years but it's cool because I was a self-embracing slut in my youth and I have done pretty much everything on my sex bucket list so not much interests me and have come to the realization that a lot of times sex is…

It sounds "relatable" because most of what asexuals describe is just totally normal, average sexual interest and expression. For some reason they decided to borrow a bunch of concepts and terminology from queer usage but — at least from what I have seen — the majority of them aren't really outside the norm.

Cross-posting this article to Deadspin would really liven up the discussion here.

Yeah. I'm ok with sexual assault meaning something broader than rape, but you hit it on the head.

Look on the bright side — some commenters who didn't know health insurance covers abortions may find out theirs does!

My abortion cost me $6! (I wasn't yet 26)