We essentially got married because I needed to be able to stay in the country legally. We planned to get married eventually, but our cicumstances largely dictated the time it happened.

The first year or so of our marriage wasn’t great, and I do think a part of that was that we hadn’t properly lived together before. But we had other stuff going on to- I was very isolated that first year because I was unemployed and couldn’t drive. He was very worried about money. I think maybe the biggest problem was…

I really don’t worry that much about my marriage failing. Maybe it’s because I never thought I would get married in the first place.

In other Iowa news, in the last six months I have heard of two criminal cases where children were found starved to death in their guardian’s care. A work colleague, who currently is going through the process to formally adopt her two foster children, has been getting calls about two other children in a homeless…

For panties, my everyday faves are Fruit of the Loom’s beyond soft hipsters. They are very cheap, wash and wear really well, come in versatile but interesting colors, and they don’t immediately make a b-line for my arse crack like most other boybrief/hipster pants. For what it’s worth I have a wide, flat butt.

For panties, my everyday faves are Fruit of the Loom’s beyond soft hipsters. They are very cheap, wash and wear…

To be honest, I’d dislike her less if she at least looked like she was enjoying herself. I don’t want to get all “Why doesn’t she smile” over here but we all know what the deal is- Melania “Married Up” in a very traditional way but parlaying her youth and looks for money. If that’s the choice you make in life, at…

I live in flyover country and I get asked this at least a few times a year, mostly by people I work with. The weird thing though is that they just don’t seem to hear me when I tell them I don’t wants kids and neither does my husband. “Oh, you guys have only been married a couple of years, take your time!” “Fine, but…

I mean, this is a point, right here. My husband and me are just about making ends meet right now, and we have flip phones and a house in need of repair. Even if we wanted one, a baby would economically pulverize us.

Yeah, I find this kind of reduction of human attraction to an algorithm quite depressing. I suspect that in terms of sexual attraction most of us are more scavenger-like than we think, and will find something to dig about almost anyone. I mean, I guess if someone wants to treasure up their lady or man boners…

I actually have a friend who growing up had the combination of very slim everything and then larger knockers. They weren’t actually that big, but while she was still growing they looked quite disproportionate. She hated it because it made getting clothes that fit nightmarish.

I feel uncomfortable with Yoga as is typically practiced in the West because of this. It’s not something I know too much about, but it seems like you either remove the spiritual aspect entirely, which seems wrong, or you end up play-acting that spiritualism. Which is not for me either. I suspect this is something that…

I bought my dress three months before he proposed. It was on Etsy, vintage, and I knew it wouldn’t be there if I waited, so I said nuts to it, I can always sell it again if it doesn’t go through.

Weirdly, I think my parents could probably do the best evaluation for mine. It would probably say “Great sense of humor, doesn’t think things through. Don’t give her your money.”

In my admittedly limited experience, it’s more like living in an older house or an apartment that you really like but that still has stuff wrong with it. Most of the time you can ignore it, but every year for a week or two you will re-notice that the bathroom door hangs crooked and can’t be completely shut all the way…

Her style is not my style but I think she’s always immaculately turned out. Even when her skirt gets accidentally blown up it’s somehow decorus. I think, tbh a lot of fashion motivated people are/were frustrated by her very classic look because frankly she’s the best-looking, clothes horse-like Royal we’ve had for a…

Really starting to have something of a girl crush on K Stew. I buzzed my hair off over a year ago and she’s completely right about how practical it is. You can also save oodles of money if you buy your own clippers. Not that she has to worry about that I suppose.

It is infuriating. I grew up in the UK, so we never had to worry about having our tonsils removed or things like that. And then you consider the cost of college, which is considered essential to get a “decent” job- loans in the UK are expensive, but in the US they are ruinous and hamper younger citizens right out of…

Agree with this so much. I was the “posh kid” at my elementary school but got made fun of at high school because I had the same backpack for three years in a row (I still own that backpack). At college I had friends who really struggled financially, and others who had new cars and Apple computers. I think being very…

I grew up solidly middle class, and I don’t mean “middle class” in the way rich people do when they don’t want to admit they’re rich. My parents had both grown up poor (in my mother’s case in real, horrific poverty combined with neglect- her teeth had to be removed when she was 15 because of a combination of…

To be honest, I think if food was not offered at the cinema, I wouldn’t miss it. Big Cinema makes millions a year off people like me who don’t have the sense and discipline not to buy overpriced M&Ms just because they saw them on the way to the like.