I think that's also something this couple completely overlooked- people can't always afford to spend up to $200 on a wedding gift, particularly if they have several weddings to attend per summer and if they have to travel to get to them. Sometimes all you really can afford is a nice card with a heartfelt message.

I second what everyone else has already said, but I'll add that our media doesn't help with this impression. I read a study quite recently that looked at the language used in stories reporting rape, and the word "monster" came up consistently (I can't remember it off the top of my head, but I'm sure I could find it…

Yeah, these sound like the kind of foodstuffs I love looking at in Wholefoods or the Deli section of my Hyvee but can't bear to spend that much money on. Yeah, I think a small registry for more traditional guests works well (my grandparents also could not get their head around my cousin's "no gifts, small money…

Depends on how much you love pasta, surely. And olive oil? I would have gone crazy over that basket.

These days I think it is. The old setting-the-young-couple-up rule is mostly defunct because most everyone either lives together or already has everything they need. Usually people with registries use them to upgrade their existing stuff, which is fine, but no-one is obligated to help out with that. The last wedding I…

Yeah, I missed that on the first go round. Honestly, I'm British and confrontation-averse, so my reaction would probably have been to shrug, dig out the receipt, and then save the story for future dinner parties. Not worth getting this aggravated and shitty over. Then again, if I'd have been the couple I would have…

Gifts are waaaaay more traditional than monetary donations, money instead of a gift used to be considered a bit crass, in fact. but neither are really required these days, because most couples will either have lived together beforehand or will have two sets of everything, so the need to set the young couple up has…

I think it's a very old-fashioned viewpoint. Like you say, most people these days will either have co-habited for a while of will be trying to unload all their extra toasters and what have you at a garage sale after the wedding, so the rules have softened up a bit. The last few weddings I've been to have had a…

I thought so too. I mean, you invited these people, they don't actually owe you a gift, but I'd be so charmed to receive something with creativity and imagination put into it.

"Weddings are to make money for your future..."

I take precautions for my safety in tons of ways all the time, but I can't blame myself for not being safe enough when somebody else hurts me. Just don't connect the two then, is what you're saying?

That's one of my few pet peeves. I love cooking, and I don't mind cooking for other people at all, but if someone has cooked a meal for you and you don't happen like it, I'm afraid you really don't get to complain. My family is terrible for this; whenever I'm at home I cook quite a bit, since my ma works full time and…

Agreed. There were some aspects of Burton's film that I enjoyed, but they felt like they belonged to another film. The Wilder version is much better, even though they inexplicably tried to make a small medieval Bavarian town look like an English city.

Am I just being dim this morning or is this really not that bad? She does say it was for a really good reason and was ultimately a positive experience, but being pregnant can do a weird number on your body (my aunt told me her wrists swelled up in her third pregnancy, which she hadn't even thought would be possible)…

That's an interesting theory, you may be right. I know my some of my American friends don't really think my size exists in the US, and think it's just the European equivalent of a "normal" size. And when I say I'm an E cup people just don't believe me because I look like what they think a C cup looks like.

Seriously. A true balconette should have a very shallow lower cup, since that's what provides the push so to speak; most of the balconettes I've tried on in the last few years seem to take the lower half of a traditional full-cup bra, cut the top section in half, and call it a day.

See, I was all prepared to be gentle with him and suggest that if he likes a certain kind of bra so much he actually buy them for his lady friends, but then he responds with aggressive cliches and I'm reminded again why I don't bother to try any more.

I just wish they'd be honest and say "What size are you wearing now? Because whatever it is, I'm going to tell you you need a different size! In three colors!"

Thank you, the support does come from the band!

I suspect they know, they just didn't want to tell you that they have nothing in your size. VS is apparently notorious for doing this.