Word. Sex isn’t the most important thing in a relationship but if you aren’t getting any it certainly becomes number one. It also never gets better. Run. Seriously, run.

If he is unwilling to see a therapist to address something that is of great concern to you, that should tell you how he views this relationship.

If he says no, and you openly talk about your sex life and he doesn’t want to increase frequency, then you know exactly where you stand.

Your comment strikes a chord. I was with my partner for four years, constantly getting turned down for sex due to his supposedly low libido, before I found out he was hooking up with randoms on the side. Not saying that’s what’s happening with your man but I would never have believed it until I found proof. Makes me…

Sex may not be everything but if you’re not having it as much as you want you might as well be friends. I don’t see how this can be a health issue for this long, if he’d ever been different, he’d be the one pestering his doctor about it. If it’s psychological, he had your year- long break to start resolving it to…

It does, but hey, learning experience, you know? Now you’ve got another item for the List of Things To Determine Quickly, along with political leanings, pet allergies, and an unwillingness to eat anything but burgers and pizza.

I would look for a medical cause first, if he’s open to that suggestion. If not, then I would, personally, consider it a dealbreaker. I listen to Dan Savage a lot, and his podcast and advice columns are filled with people who are in relationships where their sex drives are mismatched, and like another poster said,…

Well if he does, then that’s just one more reason you can leave without feeling guilty — it’s not like you didn’t try EVERYTHING!

I don’t think you can really fix this. Been there. I won’t go into detail, but now I have to turn down my boyfriend occasionally and it’s a much better situation. If you have a sense that it’s fairly easy for you to find new dates, then maybe take a break and see what else is out there. We sometimes think this issue…

Is he open to seeing a counsellor of some sort about this, either on his own or with you? Or a doctor? If he’s got an unusually low libido, there could be a physical cause that could be ameliorated with diet / supplements / medication / who knows, or a psychological cause that could be improved with therapy. If you…

This is not a problem that gets better as relationships age. Would he be open to an open relationship? Would you? If you aren’t fine with not having that much sex/knowing someone is only having sex out of obligation, I would cut my losses.

I have to go out in an hr and my hair is still wet but here I am on this site, bc priorities but anyhoo

I talked a couple weeks ago about my weight loss (92 pounds now... huzzah!) but I also lost something else just last week: my virginity. I’m 31 and had been practicing abstinence. I wasn’t saving myself and didn’t have any hang ups about sex apart from some body image issues, I just wasn’t interested in casual sex and…