Thank you friend. Suffering makes you wise and witty and interesting. Eventually. Once you stop being a boring, miserable mess.

I recently went through something similar and the reasons my ex partner of 12 years gave were also incredibly shitty and full of holes in logic. Nothing he said made any sense at all, and everything totally contradicted with other things he did or said which I took to be truthful. I would wholeheartedly recommend…

Wow. I want to do stand up too but I just don't have the guts or the material. Am thinking of joining an improv troupe or something this year though, because many of my favourite comedians got into it that way. Good luck, if you end up doing it, YouTube it here for us to see!

"I don't keep one of those cat cameras on her and she doesn't speak English, so I would have to speculate about what exactly she did all day."

gentle kid stuff to the cat like hold her leg

Speaking as the spouse, I can say that sometimes they do leave the spouse for you. And it really, really sucks for the spouse. No matter what they might tell you about the state of their relationship.

"I just want some time to be by myself for a while." From him during my recent break up. Was shacked up with the reason we broke up less than a week later.

Yes on this Mother's day I think of my mother, who I am no longer on speaking terms with, and remember all the times she told me never to have kids. The regret she felt towards motherhood was palpable - but I think the biggest favour she ever did for me was being honest about this so I didn't do the same thing in my…

I already told this story on Jez recently, but my dog always ALWAYS comes to me when I am crying. It can be a really subtle case of the sniffles and he'll walk right up and issue a cuddle unprompted. I've never even had a boyfriend who was that consistently good at comforting me and knowing what I need emotionally.…

I wonder, if being 14 he might have put some of the clues together himself - just based on his age, location and the fact he apparently looks a lot like her as well (according to her book where she is given some pictures). This story would have been all over the news forever in Cleaveland (if that's where he still…

Sometimes I feel that way too - I'm sorry for myself for whatever (comparatively) bullshit reasons and then I remember her story and I am humbled. Having said that, be kind to yourself. Everybody has their shit and everyone deals with it differently, so don't be hard on yourself for the way you deal with yours.

I was worried he might be suffering but then I saw Ralphee trying (and admittedly, failing, but still) to head bump Max and I thought "he's gonna be ok".

I just can't get my dog to appreciate the bath. I don't get it; he loves pats, water and warmth in isolation, combine the three and somehow it's the Worst Thing That Ever Happened to him!

See I don't think it's right to call it lazy. And people make crappy decisions when emotional because their brains literally don't work as they should. I am a doer, so when my life falls apart I cope by problem solving and doing/fixing (though not necessarily through work for another person), but I wouldn't judge…

If it were me, and I were feeling like the world was falling apart, and then my boss told me to suck it up, I think that would be a final straw kind of scenario. Mental health is as important and real and relevant as physical, and this is almost like telling someone who is going through depression to just "snap out of…

Oh honey. This.

I quit my job after my break up - I mean I kind of had to because I moved cities, but my boss was very understanding when I asked if I could just take the two weeks' leave owed to me in lieu of notice. I've been off ever since and start my new job Monday, almost 6 weeks later. I can't imagine having to hold a job down…

A slightly older technological way of grieving is that people used to call a love one's voicemail. Firstly, you get to hear their voice, and then you can talk to them for a while and imagine that they'll check their messages.

I think the word you might be looking for is "redundancy".

That's an old saying? This would explain so, so much for me.