Well sorry to have grossed you out. But I think it’s the obligation of the blindfold wearer to visually confirm everything they need their partner to be before putting on the blindfold. I would expect the top here never actually *said* she was a man, or had a penis. Unless I missed something in the original text...

To me it makes it way more complex, as in, it makes me question (as in wtf) how gullible, if that’s the word I want to use, the alleged victim is. Have you seen the article where it says they spent over 100 hours together not having sex and the whole time she was blindfolded? That they went out on the street, and she…

Everything you just transcribed is crazy. Idk why I thought a story that involved a swimsuit, woolly cap and dildo was going to be straightforward.

You have to have a good sense of humour about it. There are no nerve endings in your strap-on, so you really need to talk with your partner about what does and doesn’t work for them.

I understand that, and I agree with you and other opinions I’ve read that if there was deception, consent is nonexistent, therefore it’s rape.

Just last night in fact. The only downside is I’m allergic to wool, so you have to pull the acrylic over my eyes.

Just out of curiosity then if someone is trans and doesn’t tell their partner because they’ve fully transitioned is that rape? Is it rape if a person is in witness protection? I am asking because those are situations that happen. On a meta-level where do we decide if we know who someone is? By this logic the man in…

Northern England can rival your there Florida for weirdness every freakin’ day. I no longer live there.

The UK is the florida of europe.

Fraud in the inducement is not rape, by definition. In other words, “I thought I was having sex with Willy Nelson, not a sketchy homeless guy” does not make sex with the homeless guy rape.

I think rape and transphobia are definitely things to think about here.

See, that’s actually a very good point that I disagree with

Transphobia is a thing: http://www.dailykos.com/story/2013/04/…

It’s been awhile since I’ve been involved with one, but wouldn’t it cease working if you cool it down too much?

How is it rape? She consented to blindfolded sex with someone who she’s never seen. Then she complains about the equipment not being what she expected? This is homo-/transphobia, nothing more.

...but, like, you can think up a lie to explain why you have to wear a bandages and a swimming costume and why she can’t see you, but you can’t just say, “Hey. I’ve got long hair.”

Ah, catfishing. Starts out as a lark, something fun to do while you’re bored, and then next thing you know you’re in England wearing a wool hat and a strap-on.

I hate to be a downer, but penis vs plastic isn’t all that different. Especially if you warm up a prosthetic.

She told police that she felt something was ‘not right’ so she removed the scarf and mask, and saw Newland standing there wearing a woolly hat, swimming suit and prosthetic penis.