Yeah, in college I think there’s a lot of untrained sexual health student groups that push onto lesbians the false idea that dental dams during cunnilingus are as necessary as condoms during fellatio (or even as condoms during vaginal and anal penile-penetration), partly out of a lack of training and partly out of…

Hm, I wouldn’t put it down to biology as in natural laws. It’s more that medical issues that affect men have gotten far, far, far more attention from the male-dominated (literally, it was often not just banned but a punishable offence for women to be healers or doctors) medical establishment for thousands of years, so…

No, all one on them says is that kissing might possibly be able to transmit gonorrhoea, not that it may be a primary route of transmission, and he had no data to back it up and wasn’t planning to study it. His logic for that was that young gay men have higher rates of gonorrhoea than older gay men and may also have…

“Start using condoms and dental dams with oral or just wait it out and figure the planet is going to overheat and we’ll all be dead soon, anyway?” More like: start using condoms but not dental dams with oral or just wait it out and figure the planet is going to overheat and we’ll all be dead soon, anyway?

Concerns about the ethics of experimentation on pregnant women aren’t as big a contributor as you might think. Studies on older people (all subjects past the age at which women have been through menopause) are just as prone to have only or mostly male subjects.

The writer probably has bi women friends and maybe has lesbian friends, but that doesn’t make her reaction to her step-daughter’s positive comments about her experiences of sex with women any less markedly, inappropriately, negatively different to all her reactions to her step-daughter’s comments about sex with men.…

It’s not generational. The huge body of research that found that women’s relationships with other women were more likely to lead to both partners orgasming and both partners feeling positively about the sexual activity covers all generations (except, of course, people too young to have sexual relationships to…

“I’ve found that when I’m with a girl, it’s different. It’s assumed that you will have conversations about how things will work.

Engaged has multiple meanings other than engaged to be married, unlike affianced. It’s ambiguous. Also, no offence to you or anyone else who didn’t know it but I think a lot of people do know the word or at least look at it and infer its meaning from it being fiancé with an a- prefix and an -ed suffix

Oh, no worries, no need to apologize. Thanks for acknowledging all the different stuff at play here.

Everyone can be happy despite their legal status—until there’s suddenly a situation where their legal status has a huge impact on their health and finances (or immigration, home-occupancy etc.). Best wishes to you and your partner and whatever choices you prefer, but defending that personal situation by reducing the…

Imo, it would be great if it was an archaic practice but that change would have to come from the legal system and it just hasn’t. This was covered more when in the run-up to US-wide same-sex marriage, but there are hundreds of situations where not being married to your partner puts you at a major legal disadvantage,…

There are more than double the amount of male characters as female characters in both kid’s TV and kid’s books. The idea that any one TV programme is “vitally important” for boys is ridiculous. It’s far from a problem for boys, as well as girls, to be “losing” male fictional role-models and gaining female fictional…

I totally agree that she should have done more, sooner about women living under coercion and (currently considered “legal”) sexual violence. It’s beyond horrifying that anyone could see people treated like that and not treat it as an genuine emergency. Because “Kim” asked not to be identified by her real name and…

Well, if you choose to define a women’s issue as an issue that affects every single woman or an issue that doesn’t affect men at all, then, yes, that definition would make education not a women’s issue. It would make nothing or virtually nothing a women’s issue (and if applied more broadly, there would be no black…

Unfortunately, even if Kim had reported or had been a mandated reporter (people who can be charged for not reporting abuse they observe), the authorities wouldn’t consider anything actionable about a very distraught nineteen-year-old woman seemingly co-operating with horrible, sexual punishment from a much older, much…

Even if you’re on video actually physically harming a victim in a sexual situation, you can still claim the “sex play” defence. Many men do and it works a truly horrifying amount of the time.

Sure, like I said they’re unproductive and harsh and maybe uncalled for. That doesn’t make the reaction legal though.

Yes, he is. That someone upset you doesn’t make you not guilty of a crime against them. Sending indecently exposing photos to someone without (explicit or implied) consent is (unfortunately rarely prosecuted) sexual harassment. However, sending your ex photos of you kissing or hugging a new partner or smirking or at a…

I don’t think that branding is the root problem, though. People (men) don’t see issues like education as affecting women significantly more than men because they heard a politician say it. They believe it because it is statistically the reality and they notice that reality in their own daily lives and their own…