It has the same effectiveness as using a condom correctly every time, so using a condom correctly every time would give you the same fear-reduction as the gel, plus protection against STIs.

Your profile reads like you’re mean and try to pass it off as funny. If you want people to think you’re funny, that’s one of those things that you need to show not tell. It’s also not a great combination to be snobby and judgemental about whether or not people read a lot of books but use a lot of non-standard spelling…

Oh, no, don’t be sorry for bringing it up, it’s so important to talk about this stuff these days. The non-hormonal IUD lasts up to 12 years, so you might only need to get it replaced once before menopause. Even if you did need to make a trip to another state for that, it still might work out as less time/effort/risk.…

Great! And congrats on the new ‘do.

Yeah, the hormones that control menstruation get stored in fat, so that’s definitely a possible explanation.

Aw, I’m sorry. Have you gained or lost weight in the past month? That could well be behind what’s happened with your cycle.

Is a vasectomy not an option for you two? It’s a much less invasive, much less painful, much less costly procedure, with far fewer potential repercussions than tubal litigation.

Bumping into someone and hitting it off is pretty rare in real life, I think, unless you’re involved in some kind of activity/club/job/group that means you meet a ton of people. If your friends are genuine, they’re not going to think that you’re desperate for telling them that you’re looking to meet people and it’s a…

You shouldn’t feel like you have to censor yourself about stuff that affects you in order to manage his anxiety. If he isn’t able to deal with talking about the fact that he’s been sleeping with someone who’s important to him for months, he’s not ready to deal with sleeping with someone who’s important to him.

It’s not selfish and it wouldn’t prevent him from moving on—if he wants to move on, he’ll move on, and knowing that you’re still concerned about him won’t stop him—but it won’t help you in the long run. Giving in to the impulse to check up on his safety will just reinforce your own sense that you’re not able to bear…

Yeah, I think you should take the hint and back off. If it’s just that he is really busy adjusting to his new job, he’ll actively contact you to reschedule once he’s more settled. If he doesn’t do that (and “maybe” another time suggests that he almost definitely won’t), he was just giving an indirect no. Until then,…

Yeah, I think you should take the hint and back off. If it’s just that he is really busy adjusting to his new job, he’ll actively contact you to reschedule once he’s more settled. If he doesn’t do that (and “maybe” another time suggests that he almost definitely won’t), he was just giving an indirect no. Until then,…

Nice!

Address it. It’s not really normal to withhold affection or be grumpy towards your partner based on a haircut. If he had a strong sexual preference for longer hair, that’s something he should have told you about long ago. If he’s defaulting to negative reinforcement instead of proactive communication, that’s something…

Have you asked your friends if they have single friends who they think you’d get along with?

Do you feel confident that you’d be able to bring it up and he’d take that positively?

Ugh, I’m sorry. I hope you meet someone who makes tact more of a priority soon.

Hydrocolloid bandages (like little stickers that you put over spots) might help you power through the retinoid purge.

Was The Count of Monte Christo one of the three you read? What did you think of it?

I’ll speak how I like, especially since, unlike you, I’m not sinking to calling other people “stupid” or sniping at other people’s sentence structure. There are many, many more than two types of guys and two types of attitudes towards women and, again, it’s perfectly possible for men to lie about their views. If you…