I was all no patience for an irritating guy, but even though I put on a good show and I wholeheartedly endorse your not writing your fella’s cards, I have to admit that *today* (during year 12 of marriage) when I had wrangled the kids and I into color coordinated shirts in his favorite (and most prevalent shirt) color…

Nope!! You can’t. (Okay, obviously you can and have done, but not with a free pass.). My patience for derailment is just too low.