yep. my family would be very surprised (not in a good way) if there was an outright request for cash. even though its really the best gift, since there’s also not a good way to ask someone for (or gift wrap) a costco run’s worth of paper products to stock the house

I WILL HAPPILY TAKE THAT RED WINE OFF YOUR HANDS

Or pregnant brides.

Exactly. I’m from New Jersey—people have registries, but I usually just give cash (or check). That seems to be just how people do it there. I’m living in San Francisco now, and getting married next year. We’ll have a registry with things we would like (some new sheets, towels, maybe some pyrex storage bowls). If…

totally. also not appropriate for recovering alcoholics or teen brides :)

Agree 100% (even though some people seem to be taking my comment as me condoning asking for money somehow? Idk.) “Honey funds” make me so mad. Ew.

I’ll trade you giant crystal bowl for giant wolf print.

You are not owed a gift. Ever. For any occasion.

I think that’s what everyone DOES but it’s fun to laugh and vent about on the internet sometimes.

You are not a very nice person.

That’s 100% cultural though. It’s my understanding, for example, that cash is the expected and appropriate gift at an Italian wedding. Cool! That’d be very rude at my future WASPy wedding as it would be in any wedding of a family member. The polite or “correct” thing to do is wholly dependent on the culture.

I have a standard off-registry gift that I give to everyone:

I had an interesting idea about wedding gifts recently. So many people are now getting married so late that they’ve kind of already set up a house. They have dishes, they have a wok, they have cups. So they end up not having a registry, or doing one of those ‘please donate towards our honeymoon’ or ‘cash plz’ things.…

I was so conscientious for “options” on my registry that my roommate told me to add some more expensive items already cause like nothing was over $20. She said “People will want to get you nice things. Pot holders are not one of them.”

I registered for both a slow cooker and a wok and use them!!

This. Bridal showers are for gifts off the registry. Weddings are for $$$$$ Although, I got a really nice cat tower (it was on our registry!) from someone as a wedding gift and I really appreciated it because no one else wanted to buy us cat things, even though half our registry was cat-related. We already live…

Worst Wedding Gift Ever: Anything that isn’t cash.

I just don't get the hate? I want to travel and do things how I want to. If that means taking 80 dumb selfies with the Eiffel Tower behind me, so be it.

Yeah, I absolutely do not care if I alienate people with my travel photos. If I’m saving and scraping up money to go on one treat yo self vacation, you better believe I will take a million photos. But I usually post them in bulk on Facebook and try to be more picky about what I post on Instagram. If anyone is really…

I think 20 is completely reasonable for just a few days, and collages are great to round out a ‘big’ in the visit like the Louvre. When we pull into port during a deployment (I’m USNavy) we tend to upload several photos at a time, both of the exotic location we’re in, us drinking and eating good stuff for the first…