Spouses/SOs aren’t invited to my company’s holiday party. You’re just getting drunk with your coworkers.

There’s really no difference between the annual upgrade phone plans where you’re forever paying a monthly installment and buying a new phone in cash every year. I actually spend less money by selling my old phone than I would buy doing the “iPhone forever” plans or whatever they’re called.

New phones are my…

Or just put it in vanguard in a target retirement fund? Why pay 1% to a human advisor?

Why would you put short term savings into an investment account? taxable or not? The market could dip tomorrow and whoops! there goes your vacation savings. Go put it in ally.com and get 1%.

Senior doesn’t necessarily mean much in the tech industry. We renamed our job titles a few years ago, but at my current and last company, senior was the title you got after about 2 years of experience. If you have a master’s you may go right into that title.

However, I think I heard this guy is an L5, which is a senior…

I usually order grande-black-tea-lemonade-unsweetened, but maybe I should move the unsweetened to the front so I don’t forget!

I love when the weather gets warm and I can start getting Iced Tea Lemonades from Starbucks! I hate that they sweeten it by default though, the lemonade is sweet enough and I frequently forget to ask for it unsweetened.

Yes, the websites take a cut. It’s a large part of the reason why I don’t like them. I can just give you a check and save 3%.

I give a physical gift at the shower and a check at the wedding. If I’m invited to both, your wedding gift is the amount I give minus the shower gift. If I’m in the bridal party, you’re probably not getting a wedding gift (but I’ll go in on a shower gift with the other bridesmaids). All the money I shelled out for you…

True, just know that one of you is paying a fee on that transaction. If you give them cash, they get to keep all of it.

You’re not obligated. The bride should not be involved in planning her shower and should not dictate who plans it. If MIL wants to throw her a shower, let her, but you have absolutely no obligation to do so.

MOH’s generally do help with the shower, but if the mother of the bride is already throwing her one AND the…

Don’t register (for anything - physical gifts or a honeymoon fund). People will get the hint. And you don’t run the risk of pissing people off when they think they’re contributing to your honeymoon and you just stick the cash in the bank or towards your debt instead.

Same. I always give a check at weddings (I only give a physical gift at the shower if I’m invited). Then they get the full amount of my gift and they can use it for whatever they want.

We had a physical registry because of the shower but mostly received cash at the wedding and we put it towards our house which was a…

The difference between a shower and a wedding is that a shower is literally a gift-giving event. The whole point of it is to give gifts - you’re showering the bride or mom to be with gifts. Even though it’s generally expected that you give a gift at a wedding, it’s not a party to receive gifts. Technically you…

That’s not really a weird rule, that’s generally the etiquette. You don’t throw your own showers, though it’s becoming much more acceptable for immediate family to throw you one.

The second shower is usually called a “sprinkle” from what I’ve seen. Usually if the second kid is a different sex or it’s been a long gap…

I apologize, I missed that part of the original thread. I wish you the best on your elopement and honeymoon (I mean that sincerely and not snarkily).

That’s always my gift too. The couple doesn’t need a fancy website that takes a cut of it to ask for it though.

I am fun! I got tons of cash for my wedding without a honeyfund! I thought of all my guests on my honeymoon when I bought things using that cash! I just didn’t have to ask for it, because asking for money is tacky.

You can set it up either way - either the sender or the recipient pays the fee. Maybe I was wrong on my guess of $8, and maybe it was a different site than honeyfund, but I promise you that I was charged a fee to give a $50 gift on one of those sites once.

Either way I’d rather just give you the $50 in a check, which…

The website asks for a dollar amount for a specific activity. $100 for horseback riding or $50 for after dinner drinks or whatever. But at the end of the day they just get one lump sump of money. They don’t actually get those excursions.

But the fee is what makes it stupid in my opinion. Either I get charged an extra…