Who throws their own shower? What?!

I give cash anyway, but I think honeyfunds are nothing more than a cash grab. I will never contribute to one (though I will give you a check in a card anyway). I had a traditional registry and most of my guests gave me cash. People have this idea in their heads that if you don't have a registry, you're going to get…

Uhhh, I didn't do that. Because registering for a gift and then returning soemthing someone bought for me because I want cash is tacky as fuck.

My wedding too. And I had a traditional registry, but the only gifts I got from that were at my shower. It was all cash at the wedding and a handful of boxed gifts. Giving cash is cultural and a honeymoon registry (or essentially a go fund me) is not going to change someone's mind on that.

Don't register for anything. You don't HAVE to register. People will get the hint and give you cash if you don't register for stuff.

But it's not going to make anyone change their tune about giving cash. Either you're against it, or you're not. And if you're not against it, you're probably giving cash anyway. And a WASP is not going to contribute to it because they're not really buying you a couples massage, they're giving you a check.

For what it's worth, I'm not opposed to helping them take a gift. I'm going to give a check to you whether you have a registry or not. But a traditional registry says "this is my preference for bedding" where there doesn't need to be a stated preference for cash. Cash is king. Cash is always acceptable. I do not worry…

That's not true at all. There's plenty of guests who didn't get us a gift and I don't harbor any ill will towards them. I planned my wedding with the assumption that I would get no gifts. I didn't say "well I'll probably get this much cash if you estimate $x/person so I can upgrade the floral centerpieces."

People have this idea in their heads that they HAVE to register. That if, god forbid, they don't, then they're not going to get any gifts. And that's not the case. Everyone wants cash. There's very few cultures where cash is not an acceptable gift. You do not need to ask for it. You do not need to register if there's…

Agreed. Wedding website - okay. Invitation - please don't.

I always give cash and I hate honeyfunds. We all know you'd prefer cash. Hell, I had a normal registry and I still preferred cash (and received plenty of it). But blatantly asking for cash is tacky as hell.

I don't think it's wise to mix finances before you're married, personally. We started the joint account when we moved in together to pay rent and utilities.

We don't do it to separate our finances. It's not his money and my money, we treat it as all shared, so we don't worry about splitting bills or worrying about who…

Bed frames aren't that expensive, so it's not really a money thing. It just has a connotation of frat boy, college apartment where you don't care about what the place looks like as long as it's functional. Once you're out of college and a "grown up" so to speak, you tend to put more thought and effort into making your…

I started working a full time "grown up" job when I was 21. I'm 27 and married, but if I was 26 and single, I'd definitely be in that no bullshit phase as well.

My husband and I are married and our finances are mostly separated. It was easier to keep managing money they way we had before we were married. We do have a joint account that we both contribute to for shared bills and our savings account is combined.

But we also both work and have our money to spend how we want. If I…

You're right, I think it's less. Some people don't do well with hormones at all. I never had a problem with my hormonal birth control, but I liked the idea of being hormone free. I might try mirena for my next one. Every period I swear I'm going to get this thing taken out.

It's slightly harder for nulliparious women I believe. I had one and had to get it removed after a month because it had moved. But I think that GYN was an idiot and told me I could try again after I popped a kid out, so I went elsewhere and I've been more of less fine for the past 18 months. I'm fairly certain that…

I had two. The first one ended up being in the wrong place or something so they had to remove it and I had a different doctor put a new one in. The first one wasn't so bad. The second I regretted not having my husband drive me home. I laid on the bed thing in the exam room for about 30 minutes after and whimpered the…

I have the copper IUD. I always had easy periods and it's made mine really bad and uncomfortable. I start getting cramps 3 days before my period starts and I get weird, random cramps in the middle of my cycle that I never got before. I've had it for over a year now, and every month I swear I'm going to get it removed.…

I loved those books! For some reason I never got into the show though.