No, lecture away! I'm sure that the men at my company feel it's too risky to take the time as well. Maybe they're allowed to, but I'm not sure they could get away with it.

I do know a guy that took a month when he and his wife adopted. Good for them!

I think it's great how some of the scandinavian countries do it. You…

12 weeks unpaid is what FMLA requires, in case you were wondering.

My company gives 3 months full-paid maternity leave. Someone in HR mentioned that they give the same for paternity, but I've never known a single guy in the company to take that. Maybe they take a few weeks tops, but until employers require their employees to take it, it's just not going to happen.

Out with coworkers,…

Cooking takes time and effort. There's something really rewarding about sitting down with someone else to share that meal. I used to try and coordinate dinners with my roommates. I don't think my lack of interest in spending a good chunk of time cooking a meal just for myself is a self-esteem issue, but thanks for…

I dunno, if I'm going to the effort of cooking, I prefer if it's not just for myself. That's a lot of work when I could just make some eggos or heat up a can of soup for dinner. It doesn't really *have* to be for a guy specifically, but I really can't be bothered to cook most nights if it's just for myself.

My husband told me after we got engaged that he would have been very upset if I had asked him. It was important to him to do what he felt was traditionally the man's duty. We talked about marriage, we knew it would happen, but I had no control over when he was going to propose.

For my husband and I, we had talked about getting married. We knew we were going to get married eventually, but it was important to him that he did the proposal. That's his thing, and he actually told me later that he would have been really offended if I had proposed. I'm very much a take charge person in our…

I made it before I was married too! For my now husband! But more because I was looking for a roast chicken recipe and it sounded pretty good. I used Ina Garten's version. Lots of garlic and lots of lemon.

Reports say she frequently flew to Cleveland to visit her mother. She probably would have boarded that plane even if the visit wasn't specifically wedding related. THE CDC GAVE HER THE ALL CLEAR TO FLY. Let's not turn this into "idiot woman ignores the obvious because OMG WEDDING."

Really? I don't cry or anything, but the brazilian waxes I've gotten are definitely pretty painful.

I thought Magic Mike was a silly movie about male strippers. It wasn't, at all. It was kind of serious and kind of depressing, and the fun strippers were almost a side story. I don't get it.

I thought Magic Mike was a silly movie about male strippers. It wasn't, at all. It was kind of serious and kind of depressing, and the fun strippers were almost a side story. I don't get it.

She has a 3 hour block of TV on Thursday nights with huge ratings. Grey's is in its 11th season. And she's also a huge feminist and fires assholes from her show when they do things like beat their wives (which is more than can be said for lots of other employers). You don't have to like her show, but she's pretty huge.

We were lucky that my parents contributed a lot to ours. We ended up paying for about half of it ourselves, and because we spent nearly 18 months planning we were able to space out a lot of the payments. We used some of our savings to pay for things, of course, but we didn't have to go into debt, we're fortunate that…

Based on my experience with being married for two months, relatively expensive weddings and rings and modest honeymoons are a recipe for happiness. But like you we have a dearth of credit card debt, which is probably the real indicator.

Right. Don't go into debt to buy a ring or pay for a wedding. I got married in August and I was in a fb group with other August brides - the amount and debt and things they did to get the wedding they thought they deserved was appalling. My ring and our wedding is in the upper ranges for these stats, but we didn't go…

He pulled it out of his glove compartment and I remember wondering why he had a hidden phone (it's been a long time since I read the book) but I didn't think too much about it. It didn't stand out.

Without having Nick narrate, we lost all of the doubt. Right away in the book we see that he's lying to cops and the lies just keep coming and we don't know if his alibi holds up. That wasn't really the case with the movie, we never really doubted him.

I saw it with my husband this weekend. He loved it. But he had seen the trailer and knew it was a thriller and wanted to see it before I even mentioned anything about it. It's not a "chick flick"

But he wasn't in love with his wife. He was going to ask her for a divorce that morning.