Oh man I've been burned so badly by this, from both sides of the story, including three nights out with a guy who was a "close friend" that I had a wicked crush on, and who seemed to really enjoy blurring that line. Turns out those weren't dates, oh well. On the flip side, I spent a fun evening out with a guy I'd…
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I don't see the ZOMG panikkkk hookup cultuur!! here. The truth of the matter is that men and women are free to be friends, just friends, start-as-friends-stay-as-friends-no-matter-how-drunk-we-get in a way that has never really been the case before (generationally speaking). Both men and women are interested in…
Isn't this kind of a nice problem to have? The origin of the formal "date" concept was that women and men had very little unchaperoned social opportunity together. Women didn't work with men, or if they did it was in a clearly inferior role. Women and men got married very young. The social interactions in the brief…
We rarely date in New Zealand (this is changing a bit with internet dating). I think I'm fairly typical in that I can only think of a couple of romantic encounters I've had that I would call dates, but I have had several boyfriends.
imagine that news report. between this or being trampled by cows, i think that most of the deaths i've had in the sims would be ones that would definitely make the vicar chuckle
Pre-patch Sims sounds more fun than post-patch Sims.
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I almost never visit Jez anymore and this crap is why.
And how does a person respond to something like this? How does a woman who started reading this website as a teenager, who used to seek refuge here when her ideas about gender and equality were shot down by her friends, peers, and sometimes even family, who for some reason imagined this place as being a center for…
I agree with you that there needs to be a degree of intention weighed in in the ruling of the court. However, and this is where my mind starts to implode, we have had a law called "in good faith" that has acquitted people who have unknowingly been buying stolen property. Ofc that happens a lot at Blocket, the Swedish…
I'm no lawyer, but in one of the most serious situations imaginable — the death of another human being — there's a term for a murder you didn't intend. It's called manslaughter, and by its very definition, it's a crime you can be found guilty of even though you didn't intend for anyone to die.
Any time a person says to me "I'm just playing devil's advocate here",I tell them "well, then, stop". If you're not trying to open my eyes to a truth or perspective you actually believe, I don't want to hear it because I'm not interested in just being baited. If you are, then own it and tell me so so we can have an…
Exactly. On Shakesville I hear it framed this way: Are the jokes you're making more likely to make a rape victim comfortable or a rapist? If you answered RAPIST, you've got an issue. If you make a joke and a rapist thinks, "Yeah, this guy gets it!" and you're not disturbed by that alignment enough to change your…
Those diamonds WANT you to have them. They are INTO IT. The thought has not occurred to me that the diamonds do not already belong to you. Therefore, it is not stealing to take them.
I had to turn it off last night. I've written about rape in my own work, and I know it's a reality and I think it's an important subject to explore, BUT. As I said to my partner-spouse (husband feels super weird still, sorry) today, rape as a plot device simply to set up an emotional fallout—and, I agree with a lot…
Not rapes that were intercut with exquisite opera music to punctuate what a BIG DRAMATIC MOMENT the show was having. Fuck this show.
I read Anne Frank's "Diary" as a young girl, over and over again. When you get to the end, and you read the closing notes - when you find out that her life ended almost as abruptly as her diary - you feel a great sense of loss. Like you've lost a friend, somebody you'd grown to know and appreciate. A vivacious,…
My sweet Melissa McCarthy: Somebody finally styled her right.
This looks like what Andy from Pretty In Pink would wear if she had to go to another prom.