Disagree. Television sucks at storytelling, in my opinion, as do movies. Every time I see a movie or a TV series based on a book, I feel annoyed that so much was left out. Not just specific written details, but the entirety of what Shulkie referred to with her comment above about empathy.

That's an interesting perspective. My husband reads a lot, but rarely ever fiction, and he sometimes struggles with being able to empathize with others. He can, once I point out the other person's perspective to him, but sometimes it's difficult for him to do on his own. Meanwhile, I think of myself as quite…

Good luck! I think it's easy to get into the routine of just hanging out with the SO. Maybe just join a gym or take a class there?

I think there are, but Dan doesn't know them. I don't personally know anyone in an open relationship, although my husband has some colleagues whom the group refers to as "swingers."

Seconded. There's some good stuff there. Lots of crap, but that's kind of true of any kind of porn, I think. (Or any kind of amateur writing, also)

I think it depends on the relationship. Presumably, the first time you do *anything* sexual, you're getting some sort of consent, whether that means talking hypotheticals beforehand ("I'm thinking I'll do x and y") and then seeing whether the other person responds with "oh yes, I love that,"or "ugh, I've never liked…

Well, I guess if you're a total sociopath (or is it psychopath, I forget the difference) who completely lacks empathy or gets off on the displeasure of others.

And now people who are interested in or in favor of monogamy!

Yeah, and I think with your last sentence you summed up the main problem I have with Dan that I don't have with other advice columnists. It doesn't matter how crazy stupid or whatever the letter writer is, you should still give them some advice, because that's your job. I've seen other advice columnists answer what…

I agree. It wasn't *actual* infidelity, it was an exploration that he never (as far as we know) followed up on. They're both clearly immature - he's lurking Craigslist while she's snooping through his browser history. He probably started to jump in, then either got cold feet or a guilty conscience and backed out.…

Dan's answer made me angry. I get that he's all about polyamory or whatever, but that just pissed me off.

I was friends with two of my former bosses (both at the same company), and in both cases, they friended me. (In the one case, as mentioned above, his wife unfriended me on his behalf, but I'm still friends with the other) I felt awkward about it, but I also felt as though I couldn't refuse, because of the power…

I was the only person working under him at the time, and he took the management part of the job VERY seriously, so I imagine he talked about me at home, and he also worked long hours (not with me) and she got jealous (even though there was nothing romantic or sexual going on). I got the impression from the way that…

Yeah, I'd be more concerned in that situation about the potential for office gossip than the risk of ACTUAL impropriety.

I'm liking this just because of the continued usage of "kittens." :)

I agree. AIDS is a life changing diagnosis. I don't care that there's stigma against HIV positive people, or it's making it hard to meet people or whatever - if you're endangering a sexual partner's health and life, you need to fucking tell them. I can see why the guy would do that, but it's incredibly inconsiderate,…

I hooked up with my book club through MeetUp; some three or four years later we still don't really talk about books, but I've made a (small) group of friends to get me out of the house periodically and help me feel less socially inept. :)

That sounds really gross.

Yeah that guy sounded really extreme. I liked her answer to him though - you don't look at your stepkid and think about how your wife had sex with another man, do you?

My husband's ex-wife is thankfully a thousand miles away, and I've never met her, and she seems batshit insane, but I think I'd be okay with working in the same company as her? It might be awkward, and it would awkward if I managed her or vice-versa, but whatever.