Great comment!

For sure. In my experience, men who have diagnosed mental illnesses tend to get a free pass for shitty behaviour, while women’s diagnosed mental illnesses are downplayed and seen, if anything, as more evidence that they are ‘difficult’. I get the idea behind the whole ‘toxic people’ schtick - and there are some people…

This piece is really, really great for spotlighting all the commenters who’ve never taken a college class, do not understand things like context or historical connotation, and who possess absolutely no critical thinking skills. Turns out there’s a whole lot of them.

Jesus, how many comments are you going to leave? We get it. You don’t agree. Once was enough. Please go write about it in your diary.

“If I don’t care about something, nobody should.”

Oh, the locomotive troll is back.

Fantastic post on a legitimately fucked up cover. The painted feature might be the most wtf part of it for me.

Yup, gaslighting sucks.

Thank you. It’s almost like this person went to school for this exact thing.

One does not need to be a psychologist in order to be an expert trial witness. One simply needs to be an acceptably-qualified expert in something relevant to the matters being tried... which this professor may or may not be, depending on her CV, research, and the particular development of the issues for trial here.…

this is important for people to know, as well—anyone can be abusive, it is not specific to any gender or orientation.

yes, that’s important to repeat—men who choke in domestic violence situations are especially dangerous, and statistically more likely to murder their SO than men who don’t choke. everyone (especially women) should be aware of this.

I don’t think it’s that simple. Sometimes she does something that makes her look good and smart; sometimes she does something that makes her look opportunistic or manipulative. She’s complicated— as most people are.

empathising with emotional abusers is dangerous. it’s how they get to you, they feed off you, and how they control you. when someone is emotionally abusing you, the LAST thing you should do is concern yourself with their feelings and the FIRST thing you should do is get away and get yourself safe.

Thank you!!!

Why are we supposed to hate her again?

Couldn’t agree more. Also, if he hadn’t killed himself he would have most likely killed her. Statistically, a man who chokes a woman is significantly more likely to kill her. I am sorry for everyone who had to be a part of this horrendous act but I am relieved for her safety now.

My ex wasn’t violent to me but he was emotionally abusive and manipulative and because I was in my late teens/early 20's I didn’t quite realize how fucked up and harmful that was. He would threaten to kill himself whenever I tried to break things off, so I would back down and apologize for ‘hurting him like that.

My ex would go on rage benders where he broke all of my things (he always remarked with surprise that none of HIS important things got broken while he was so out of control) and threatened self harm or had a “depressive episode” or “panic attack” when I had any needs or even thought about “abandoning” him. When I was…