And a little thing I like to call “deliberate incompetence” has a lot to do with it as well, I think. That way, you don’t have to try because you’re “just not good at it.” Bullshit. You won’t get good at anything without trying and practicing.

In my 40 years of life as a woman who dates men, this has never gone over well. Men don’t see what the problem is, even when you explain it to them. I have not met one man who will do the emotional work when asked, or who doesn’t see it as an annoying request from a dizzy broad. Anger? They have lots of that. Not a…

To do that, you would have to serve that it needs to be done, and figure out how to say it—>just the kind of thing you are saying you won't do. It's a catch-22

But part of the problem is that asking is part of the emotional work. Recognizing that it needs to be done, planning it, delegating tasks, all of that goes unseen.