I’m not trying to be a passive aggressive dickbag, and I’m sorry if I conflated your personal motivations for your post with the logical motivation behind derailment in general. It is the internet, and it’s easy to see human people as personifications of arguments that at their root are mainly used maliciously.

That…

If you are being honest in your attempt at discourse here, then I’m sorry your background has failed you so badly. Anyone familiar with feminist activism should understand and recognize derailment when she sees it. You should also have enough experience to recognize when you are being called out on derailment…

And we’ve reached derailment territory. Going with my above example, a racist who doesn’t want to donate his kidney to a black person is probably a despicable person. But bringing that up is obvious. If you’re bringing it up in a conversation about how important it is to let people freely choose who they want to…

What about people who don’t want to donate their kidney to a black person, just because the person is black. Should we FORCE them to donate? They are letting the black person who needs a liver die, just becuase he is black! It’s racist!

But, at the end of the day, even terrible racists deserve control over their…

I would add that male rapist might seem to be buried under a long sentence in jail, but usually get out in < a year, so be careful about crying double standard here. We aren’t, as a society, throwing the book at any rapists.