Oh, I DEFINITELY think bullies have low self-esteem. Definitely. It's simple. When you are happy and feeling good, how do you treat others? You're nice! You smile. You're friendly. When you feel bad and angry — that is when you treat others like shit. I cannot imagine anyone who likes themselves bullying…

I thought I responded to this. It's not showing up. Anyways, as I said, it's not like you have to endure night after night of painful sex — not at all. Just go slow and make sure you are wet or have lot of lube and you'll be fine the first time. It really is psychological — if you are all freaked out, things…

Hmmm...I am trying to remember...it was a pun...Unorthodox, maybe? Yes — Unorthodox: The Scandalous Rejection of My Hasidic Roots, by Deborah Feldman.

I have read about those. I read a book by a woman who had been raised among the Satmar Hasidim and she could not lose her virginity because she was so freaked out by sex her vagina just clamped down. She had to use these dilators to be able to have sex.

Have you ever been in this position (no pun intended)? It's not like I endured nights and nights of painful sex — not at all. It really IS psychological, a lot of it. You just go slow and make sure you are wet or have lube and it's fine. I think people just get freaked out. The one thing that is difficult is the…

I didn't compare having sex to giving birth. I couldn't. I have never given birth.

Yeah — you do get over the "getting in" part. It didn't bother me at all after I got accustomed to it. But, the length? Honey, I am sorry. I was married to my first husband for a long time. He may never get it all the way in. I found doggy style to be easiest on me and he could get the most in — I hope that…

Not necessarily painfully. I speak from experience. My first husband had a huge penis. It was a porn star size penis. You get used to it. I am not tall, not at all. I have been told how small I am. However, I just thought, "Heck, if this is built to manage a baby — it can manage this." So I knew it would fit…

That's length — not width. Position helps if you are with a man with a big dick (as I have been). And some guys are just never going to be able to sink that whole thing with certain women — but they can get most in. I read somewhere that the average length of a vagina is 7.5 inches. That's a pretty big dick — not…

Giving birth involves a heck of a lot more than sex with a man with a big dick. And, actually, there was a thread about this on jezebel a while back — on women who orgasm when they give birth (it happened to a friend of mine). Anyway, if a vagina can stretch to give birth to a baby, it can handle a big dick. No…

Have you ever given birth? Are you planning to? Because nearly all women can. I had a man in my life once who had a porn-star size cock and I remember thinking — this is psychological. Get over it. If your vagina can handle a baby (hypothetically — I have never had a baby), it can handle this. And it could.

It's a relief to know that, isn't it? It's so hard to play catch-up....

Vaginas birth babies. I'd say any cock can fit into any woman's vagina.

Well said!

I know. My dad played the mandolin — according to his estranged sister, he played it well. I have his mandolin, but I never, ever heard him play.

I hate them, too. They are evil. They flatter almost no one and should be banned.

Thank you. He really was. The most amazing thing was that he didn't tell me most of this — I heard about it from his friends. I found letters among his papers after he died (one from the American Embassy in Yugoslavia!). He didn't talk about himself much. It must be said, my dear — YOU remind me of him, so you…

I hope you get that job. It sounds like you would be perfect for it. Actually, you kind of remind me of my father. He used to travel all over the world. He had no money. He was actually an orphan. But he would get jobs on cruise ships — work as tour guides — whatever — to get him wherever he wanted to go. He…

Thanks for the nice comments about how I love my kids. When my sister-in-law and I get together, my brother groans and rolls his eyes, knowing he is going to listen to us talk about our students for hours! One of my beloved former students is Haitian and goes there a lot. I would love to do something specific to…

I am too scared to go to a developing country because I have Crohn's disease. This has led to other health problems — I don't want to go into detail, but good hygiene is very important and I am scared of getting any kind of intestinal anything, because I am already such a mess there. However, I have had many students…