Well, you can't be obnoxious to people you work with and keep your job, but you could say something like this: "I need to talk to you. This is the only time we are going to have this conversation. I think it is inappropriate and unprofessional for you to to talk to me about why you do or do not find certain women…

Good girl! That is a GREAT revelation! I love that you wrote, "I shouldn't feel pressure to try and be a certain way to attract a certain kind of person. Instead, I now know that there are plenty of great people who would happily date me." That is true about EVERYONE and I wish EVERYONE could understand that and…

I *think* I know why people talk shit about someone who weighs 2 pounds more than they do — it's internalized self-hatred. Instead of having the balls to say, "I am not buying this shit! I am not believing that being fat is evil," they instead believe it and in order to distance themselves from being one of "those"…

Virtuous? VIRTUOUS? Are you serious? Did you really just use that word? And, according to you, "being overweight is to due to choosing what is easy and comfortable over what is hard and virtuous"?! Um, being virtuous has NOTHING to do with your appearance. A person who helps the poor is virtuous. A person who…

Please. Please. Dump this friend immediately. Do not go to her wedding. Do not buy her a wedding gift. Let her know that she is prejudiced and that while she considers prejudice against fat people to be the last acceptable form of prejudice, you do not. Tell her that hundreds of people you told about this online…

Let me get this straight — Obama has a long history of mentioning the good looks of all kinds of people, male and female. He mentioned Harris's good looks while listing many, MANY of her non-looks related attributes. AND it sounds like he was making a little joke, since all of the previous AGs of CA have been men…

Thank you for saying this. There are a lot of people who will say it's not the same thing, blah, blah, blah, but the fact is, for whatever reason, he does this. Maybe he was raised this way — to say everyone, male or female, is good-looking. And that is very different from someone who never mentions it suddenly…

I am glad that my post...did something to make you want to thank me. I don't know if "feel better" is the right term, but it clearly helped you in some way. I have always told people that I didn't care about my miscarriage — that it was the best thing that could have happened (after 15 long years, I am no longer…

YES! That is EXACTLY what I meant. I like the way you say it. Thank you!

What are you talking about?

I think — I could be wrong — but I think Medea comes from a black tradition of saying "my dear" but it's pronounced like "muh-deah," hence Medea. I got that from some research I was doing on Toni Morrison, a far superior artist (well comparing her to Tyler Perry is like comparing Monet to the box of crayons that…

That is hilarious! You should have given him something just for that!

My, my, my, my, my, my, my! Your husband sounds healthy! I might catcall him (but not if you were around. Of course. And I am sure he would ignore me, since he is smitten with you!).

Oh, nearly every soon-to-be college grad feels directionless. That's because your life hasn't taken direction yet. It's normal. Your parents were right about it being best to do something you love, basically because, for most of us, if we don't enjoy what we are doing, we won't do it. Look at you — you haven't…

Why are you trying to do both? That may not be the best way to use your money. I think you should just pay your regular mortgage payment and take the money you were using to overpay and use it to pay off your credit card. Can I ask you — did you think you could inherit debt? You are not the only person I ever met…

Nope, you're not the only person. Wow — it seems like there IS something to the theory that the "bag lady fear" is related to having parents you couldn't depend on emotionally. My Park Avenue friend could not depend on her parents emotionally and although her parents were wealthy and she has never known poverty, she…

You would not have had to repay that. You cannot inherit debt in this country. If someone dies owing money to a bank, say, the bank can try to get the money from that person's estate (whatever they leave). The bank CANNOT get money, however, from that person's relatives.

Hey — do me a favor — see a financial adviser PLEASE. I don't know if overpaying your mortgage is the best way to use your money (it MIGHT be — it might not be). And there might be other things you can do to give you more security. Is your husband healthy? Does he have better health than you? If that is the case,…

Oh, yeah — that makes sense! I forgot it was Good Friday (probably because I am Jewish). The Sabbath candles are a weekly thing and I love to use that time to try to — there is a phrase in Judaism, Tikkun Olam, that means "heal the world." I use that time to try to focus on sending good energy where it's needed. …

Well, I'm not a Christian, either! I'm a Jew! And how could your kind wishes offend me? Actually, wishing me the peace of the Buddha is just lovely and probably exactly what I need. I am not always as good at peace as I should be. Thank you! You are getting my Sabbath wishes, but don't worry — I light the candles…