I often wonder what my life would be like if I had started treatment for my various mental illnesses in childhood. I don’t think my daughter has any psychiatric disorders (at least yet) but her issue with anxiety definitely needs help that I can’t provide myself.

that is literally the worst thing an Indian family member can say to you

Did your society lawyer husband also dress up?

Haha it’s like an alternate universe

Wait you actually painted your face with brown face paint?

This person is a troll, a very good one, but a troll nonetheless

You are on a roll. Cheers, as always!

...getting a peak into black America!? please tell me you are like...100 years old...

Yeah, I wonder how Margret feels about all this...

My pleasure. It's Friday and I've had a lot of coffee, I will be on my A game for next 40 minutes.

Honestly, I think that when a woman appears to be “Eye Candy” everyone assumes that she is stupid and incompetent - that she only got the job for looks/ who she is sleeping with or similar. If you are in career that requires brain power, being assumed to be stupid will not help you advance.

Amen. Being eyecandy puts me in danger. I’m not exaggerating about the number of times I’m been attacked and I’m only 25.

I sometimes. If I was “eye candy” I wouldn’t have to work so damn hard. I wouldn’t have to fight as hard for my pay raises and promotions.

I doubt it. I’ve worked with some really pretty ladies who fit the “eye candy” mold but were very smart and competent. All they got for their troubles was mildly inappropriate to straight up sexual harassment (I had to convince her to talk to HR about it, and I would have if she didn’t, because I heard the whole thing…

The problem with being “eye candy” is that you will be treated like a kept at arms distance at best by threatened women, utterly disrespected by men, and patronized by all. You will never be taken seriously, at least in tech in the heart of the Midwest.

That’s fucking hilarious (and moot) since the majority of offices keep their inside temperatures at about 66 degrees, so as to accommodate the way men dress.

Name one job where it’s appropriate for a woman to be wearing a sundress while a man is wearing slacks and a jacket.

Oh my, are you me? How many times have I gotten the “Why can’t you dress more feminine?” Or the “Can’t you at least try a skirt suit instead of a pants suit?” Or the “A pair of pumps wouldn’t kill you.” (In my case, it probably would, as I am a total klutz.) Actually, now that I think about it, this usually comes from…

It utterly amazes me that I could’ve written this exact rant. Except I’m obese. It’s the same damned thing, My body is apparently public property and I’m either disgusting or “cushioned” and I’m a drain on the healthcare system or a middle finger to conventional beauty. Total mindfuck when you’re trying to fix your…

Oh god I found a picture today of me when I was in Mexico, and my arms look like actual twigs. And the first thought was, “I wish my arms still looked like that”