So you know how Jezebel likes to rail against people appropriating Native American iconography for inappropriate things?

and certainly no expert in medical ethics

Exactly! I don't want to break his heart!

Yup, misunderstood.

Ah, that does suck - I'm sorry to hear that. And yeah, it's worse when "he's not a bad guy... he's just not the right guy." You feel so... well, at least, I felt so ungrateful when I was in that position. A perfectly nice guy that many women would be happy to be in a relationship with, and it's so hard to date, and…

This is going to sound really horrible, but I used to have this "test" I would do while driving down the highway. I'd imagine that the door would fly open and there would be a seatbelt failure and a semi in the lane next to us and he would be pulled out of the car and under the semi, SMOOOSH.

And then I waited to see…

I would like to extend my thanks to every single nervous bride and large wedding guest list person on this thread for reassuring me that The Import and I are doing the right thing by having six people total - including us - at our wedding.

Besides, women wrote the book on the subject. Literally.

I'm pretty invested in accurate science reporting, so I try (try!) to stay calm - success rate could use improvement. ;-)

Wow - talk about displaying your biases.

I know it's a total cliché, but these are the types of scenarios where therapists can be useful - even just for a handful of sessions, to help you work out what it is you're even stressing about (and often give good tools for how to make decisions in a way that's conducive to your way of thinking/orientation).

It'll get better. :-)

In my experience, those kind of gut level naggings should be explored. It could be there's something you want you're not getting in your current relationship, and that figuring out what it is makes it more likely that your current relationship can offer it... or it could be nothing, or it could be everything.

Hmm. My fiancé thinks I'm beautiful (he's wonderfully crazy) and I think I have an awesome personality (he agrees). Maybe there's something to this. :p

o.0

While I agree that every child should be wanted, I'd certainly argue against forced (reversible) sterilization, and would do so under the premise of bodily autonomy.

...I may like my books too much for that. :p

A century? This was still legal in Oregon two decades ago.

"Over a 10-year period, that isn't a huge amount of money," Heinrich said, "compared to what you save in welfare paying for these unwanted children – as they procreated more."

Ahem.