“ancient Greek sculptures depict men with dreadlocks” gonna stop you right there, buddy. Very few Greek sculptures still exist (as they were made of bronze and subsequently melted down for weapons, or they’re the Elgin marbles), and those that do, definitely do not depict dreadlocks (nor do the Roman copies of…

“A local DJ”

In which we all are the black guy who takes one look at what’s going on, and then nopes the fuck out of there.

She did not handle it the right way, but damn was that guy annoying. The way he said “you’re culture” was so obnoxious. Actually, they were both annoying. She should not have kept trying to prevent him from leaving (totally not cool). Idk where I’m even going with this comment.

White guys in dreads surely do look stupid, but there is no excuse for her behavior, none. Especially once she starts assaulting him.

More than anything that particular video tells me that David Pakman should not talk about black women.

“SHAME ON ME FOR KISSING YOU WITH MY EYES CLOSE SO TIGHT!”

DON’T YOU PUT THAT CURSE ON ME

Why doesn’t Courtney Stodden have a reality show? Why?

Speaking of white boys with dreads, was there an article about the SFSU “incident?” It seems it wasn’t much more than an argument, but I have been seeing it discussed various places.

For me, it’s because I’ve had a lot of friends aged 30-late 40s die suddenly (weird rare cases of cancer at a young age, sudden death in their sleep, drug overdose, car accidents, one friend got stabbed...) and I think for me, not only are more of my pals dying as I (we) get older, but also like, there is a lot of…

That is really sad.
Her name coupled with the sad feelings makes me think of this. No disrespect intended.

We’ve all been in the pit of breakup darkness where it feels like it’ll literally never get better. All I can say is, that indeed with time it will. Which isn’t comforting because “throw a couple of months at it” is easier said than done, since you still have to live through those months. But my comment was really…

I mean, if articles like this weren’t reported as “this is her third failed relationship” and our society wasn’t obsessed with the idea of “forever” as the only metric of success, maybe so many of us wouldn’t internalize the notion divorce is literally the worst thing. Relationships fail, people outgrow each other. It…

The article I read about their divorce listed a bunch of her boyfriends and the incredibly sweet and optimistic things that she said about each one of them. It made me really sad. She seems to very easily give herself over to the idea of love, with great optimism and enthusiasm. But wanting it really badly just isn’t…

I remember — 20 yrs ago when I first met my husband — having a conversation with myself that I either A. had to commit to the relationship or B. let him go.

Honest and smart. Thanks for these thoughts.

Having these exact thoughts a lot lately. Just went through a breakup and, even though I knew it was for the best, I remember saying (while blubbering hysterically) “I’m just so sick of losing people”, over and over.

Damn, this is a very honest, raw post, and I appreciate that. Few people ever make it to this core level of painful questioning. Most folks that I can tell, will steadfastly avoid painful exploration like this.