No. Bc I’d say that for POC, who don’t see themselves represented as desirable in media, or are only occasionally thrown in as a white person’s fetish, finding yourself the most attractive is actually somewhat revolutionary. I mean, I’m black, and I find the things that white and Asian people value to be pretty…

This was my thought! Reading this I just kept thinking “....and?”

I’m really saddened to see all of the comments about how the author isn’t allowed to call herself fat. I am her exact height/weight, and I am told *constantly* how fat and disgusting I am, especially on the Internet. Maybe there are ways bodies can be arranged where 135 doesn’t *look* fat, but trust me, I LOOK fat,…

You haven’t seen obnoxious until you’ve seen baby shower etiquette boards. I was basically called a monster because I mentioned I didn’t put any blue items or baby clothes on my registry because I didn’t want to clue people in to the fact that we were having a boy. (Mr Minkoff wanted to keep it a secret.) Apparently…

I don’t see why the government should have a say in why you’re getting married. Marriages of convenience aren’t illegal. An 80 year old millionaire can marry a 20 year old model without anyone questioning the validity of the marriage. So what if you get married for immigration purposes? The USA will basically sell a…

Hi, I live here to. 200+ lbs., 5’5 size 14/16. Is that actually fat enough for you?

Okay, so obviously those dudes who troll in tour groups to Eastern Europe to find “love” *cough subservient women *cough and end up married like 3 days later are totally legit right? There’s nothing wrong with that? At least this shit is completely up front about the fuckery.

She is the kind of person that inspires violence. May she forever have an eyelash turned inwards. May she never notice there is no toilet paper until it is too late. May there be heavy traffic every time she is in a taxi. May there always be a deepish puddle that she cannot avoid that will definitely wet her socks and…

Thank you for this. We can acknowledge the value in the thought even if the author isn’t “fat enough” to call herself fat by whatever messed up rubric we’re using, and attacking that statement like it’s the whole of the article throws out the true point. As a side note, I wish I had your confidence - it’s tough to…

I like this article a lot. Regarding all the criticism from commenters about considering yourself fat when most people do not consider your height / weight anywhere close to fat:

Size is one of my fitness goals and I do think there is some kind of disorder involved. If you live in San Diego you can see it manifest and transmit everywhere you go. The parents at random little league games around town look more or less like marine squads. I run marathons and ride centuries and that makes me a…

The best advice I ever got was something like this “whenever I look at pictures of myseld from 5 or more years ago, I will think ‘I look so good/skinny/young!’ But when the pictures were taken, I hated how I looked. I’m just going to start looking at myself as though I’m 5 years older, being so happy with how I look.”

I want to just scream obscenities at you. Jesus fucking christ, for five minutes this morning, i got to imagine what it would be like if i got to live in a reality where my two biggest fears aren’t“she’s going to say no” and “what if she says yes???” because i’m well over 450 lbs and haven’t had positive sexual…

i am loving every single person on here having a shithole panic attack because someone suggested they think about why they don’t date fat people.

Yeah, I get that. But there will always be someone heavier that can say, “You think you’re fat, look at me.”

Y’know, I am willing to bet that there are charismatic, handsome fat dudes out there who are absolutely killing it. But three years ago, when I slept around a lot, I never once had sex with a fat dude.

Well, damn, I’m 5’3” and as of this morning 139 lbs and was telling myself I was “thick” and maybe on the way to fat, and I am only a B cup so I guess I should feel a lot more body shame than I do.

In the author’s defense - she said she has body dysmorphia, and if true she really can’t help it. Jez’s choice to publish…

Well, she is “LA-fat.” I live in Socal and many would consider her a little chubby. (Shrugs). Weight is context specific and if people send her the message she is “fat,” she probably internalized that.

I mean, I think her asking why people don’t find fat people desirable is an important query, because our preferences and ideals are shaped by culture and that is absolutely important to examine. Hell, you can write an entire article on just that and it would be a hell of a lot better than this whole “hey, I find fat…

1. Well, this comment section predictably turned into missing the forest for the trees as everyone scrambled to determine if the author is or is not properly fat.