I promise it gets better. Once you reach the point where you stop holding yourself responsible for his happiness, moving on is pretty easy. I was married to an emotionally/financially abusive man for 5 years and this summer will be 2 years since I asked him to move out. For the first few months (okay, year plus), I…

That’s actually kind of hilarious.

The Story of O is life-changing.

VC Andrews is the queen of the genre. So smutty, so ridiculous, and such a big impression on my tiny, young, overly developed brain.

I saw him during his last spoken-word tour and he was riveting. He is one of the very few people who can hold an audience’s attention for 2.5 hours while just speaking...his rage is intelligent and well-articulated. I love him.

My boyfriend and I started out like that. When I first met him, I figured he’d be a fun 3-week fling. At the end of three weeks, I mentally gave him another three. Then another month, and another month after that... A year plus of dating and nearly two years since we met later, we are going strong and talking…

I’d do him a thing least once. Probably three times because even if he’s bad, damn is he my type. My scruffy, filthy, type.

I was much the same. In a weird twist, though, I got to sleep with two of my biggest unrequited crushes. My Junior High crush is a super sweet guy, but super inexperienced. My inner 15-year-old was amazed he was in my bed; adult me gave an A for effort and appreciated his apologizing that his dick didn’t vibrate. (To…

What I find worse is when the person with whom you share a mutual hatred tries to pretend to be friendly. Like, don’t come over and say “hi”; I saw you across the room and ran in the other direction to avoid your bullshit! Be an adult and imagine I’m invisible, too.

There was an incident with my boyfriend’s family last week that culminated in his sister telling him that their mom and I were discussing them pooping. His immediate response? “This one [pointing at me] doesn’t talk about poop. What did that one [his mom] say?” Apparently I have made it very clear that I don’t do…

Carrie’s horrible counterpart is Ted Mosby from HIMYM. They deserve each other.

Carrie is by far the worst of the four. She’s selfish, self-centered, manipulative, and whiny. And Aidan just wanted someone to settle down with and have a family. He was too nice, and she walked all over him. Carrie needed drama to function (there was literally an entire episode about Aidan not making her “stomach…

I have ended 2 serious relationships (an engagement and a marriage) with men who made this threat. At some point, you have to realize that their behavior is not your responsibility. I was fortunate enough that neither went through with their threats and I am now with someone who is emotionally stable and would never…

I hate unscheduled phone calls. My friends know to text me and find a time that is mutually convenient, and I will talk for hours. Call me spur of the moment, and I will probably ignore your call. As someone with anxiety and depression, I need to get into a mental space where I am ready to talk, and that requires…

How did I miss this story?! I aspire to raise a daughter who punches kids who fuck with baby bunnies.

I’m so sorry. I completely empathize with not acting like a “typical” victim, and just wanting to get on with life. For years after my rape, I put myself in objectively stupid situations with the rationale that “the worst has happened; why worry about being safe now?” I went to a couple of counseling sessions after,…

I’m so sorry.

Thanks; I just subscribed!

Do you, by any change, remember which podcast? I’m very interested in this subject, particularly in the context of the Wetterling case.

This is something that is hard for me to think about logically, as I was sexually assaulted. Even though it was over 10 years ago, I take medication and have been in years of therapy for the resulting PTSD. So when I hear about a case like this, my instinct is to drag the perpetrator across the coals. As far as I’m…