The jewelry store I used to work at had a customer named Bunny Workin. Who is now my alter-ego. Needstosleep has a furbaby and drives a red car; Bunny Workin drives an SUV to take her kids to soccer practice and drinks white wine in her water bottle. Needstosleep is pale and has dark hair; Bunny Workin is bleached…

I loved what a complete picture the ESPN series painted! I had not expected such a balanced, well-researched doc from them. I was especially impressed by their focus on the racial forces that affected both his life and the case itself. I learned a lot about the history of civil rights, as well as developing an…

I had that feeling when my marriage was ending. I was miserable and knew he would never change, but I kept thinking that if I just tried harder, maybe things would work. Maybe he would start appreciating me if I was a better cook, kept the apartment cleaner, if i was more affectionate. (This despite everyone,…

I do shit like that all the time. One of the worst was when I had just started managing a jewelry store. I’d been there maybe 3 weeks, and my only male (and very, very stereotypically gay) employee and myself were opening the store together. He mentioned that he had replaced the coffee creamer he had used, and I will…

I remember it was around July 4th. He had brought me a handle of Black Velvet (I was literally only dating him because my friends and I were underage and he was our booze connection). I remember having one and a half drinks. I remember saying no. I remember watching it all, as if I was floating above my body. I…

These are the scars that no one sees, and they never go away.

The Special Special Special is my happy place.

Jen Kirkman’s “I’m Gonna Die Alone and I Feel Fine” is my go-to for watching alone and cry-laughing.

I am in love with Maria Bamford. I saw her stand-up with Jackie Kashian last summer and have never laughed harder. As someone who has Bipolar II, anxiety, depression, and PTSD, Maria’s humor is always spot-on. I struggled a bit with her series (mainly how it jumped around), but powered through because I want her to…

Yep. My boyfriend has a Friday night routine. At ten p.m., he goes to a burger and beer joint. When they close around midnight, he goes to the bar he has been frequenting since before we met. He texts me throughout the night and when he gets home. If he drinks more than the usual amount, he knows I will pick him up.…

I said out loud for the first time ever, I want to deface a car. I wanted other things too, as it happened — the things I wanted were so specific.

I recently found a scrapbook my 8th grade teacher made me for graduation. I grew up in a very, very rural area and attended a country school (20-30 kinds in the whole school, grades K-8) until high school. One of the photos my former teacher apparently felt was worth preserving was from a school play about the Civil…

lol I tried Ask Jeeves, but he didn’t say anything definitive.

I actually took a genetic test to see which antidepressants/mood stabilizers would work best for me (after a solid 15 years of playing “let’s see if this one works) and learned that I metabolize folic acid very quickly and was prescribed a supplement. I cannot imagine “doing my own research” to determine something…

If you think filing for divorce is a hostile act, you clearly don’t understand how bad your relationship was...and maybe need to accept your part in things. Most people file for divorce to end the hostility, not to begin it.

The Blind Assassin is one of my desert island books, and The Robber Bride is close behind! She is so talented at creating realistic characters who are compelling and stay with you long after you have finished the book.

Honestly, while he did not have my full consent, I also was not super upset about it. I have been raped, and this did not feel like that at all. I hadn’t even thought about it in those terms, although now that you mention it, I do hope he did not exhibit that behavior with other women who might feel violated by it.…

I am so prone to UTIs that if I decide to cuddle for five minutes before getting up and peeing, my boyfriend will remind you to. We watched something on TV about UTIs (he has known about every one I have had since we started fucking, and he used to find it a point of pride, like in Crazy Ex-Girlfriend). Apparently…

I’ve had that same conversation with my parents a million times. Just change “illegals” to “gays”... it is like banging your head against the wall.

The timing for this was perfect for me; I just listened to the latest Reveal podcast yesterday, and it was about religious liberty being used to protect abusive/neglectful “schools” and “daycares”...this story would have fit right in. I am so lucky that I was able to leave the church I grew up in (which I maintain is…